7 Signs You Might Be In Love If…

Are you in love, or is it just hormones?

I asked someone this, who I really cared about.

I was trying to decide: Did I really love this man or was I simply just, well, drunk on oxytocin and other various hormones?

I mean, the person in question is incredibly attractive. Great body. Beautiful face. Even better touch.

All of those factors could have meant my feelings were really just hormones and hot-in the pants and not necessarily, straight from the heart. Although let’s be real: a good relationship requires “hot in the pants” and “straight from the heart.”

I found my answer though, when I went down this little list of mine. Here are a few ways to tell whether it’s love or hormones:

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When to Accept It’s Over For You

I hesitated to write this but felt compelled to get it off my petite shoulders.

I am happily single but there is one thing that I have yet to grapple with. The fact that it is over.

Oh not my marriage. That I am totally fine with being over. Yes, I said that. I am fine with having a divorce. I am not grieving the end anymore. I am sure once I get word that my divorce is final that I may feel some sadness but to be honest, I am not sure there will be any more pain. I am done, done, done. And so is he. That chapter is long shut.

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Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

You’ve met someone. And this time? You think you might actually like him. When his name starts to get peppered into your conversations with friends, that’s when they start popping the questions:

  • Did you two kiss?
  • Have you done it?
  • What’s he like in bed?

The questions fall out of their mouths like wildfire but the fact remains that you haven’t done the deed with him yet. It’s just been intense makeout sessions or perhaps not even that. So how do you know if this new man is going to deliver when it comes time to hit the sheets? Well, there’s no scientific guarantee to measure whether your man is going to curl your toes or not, but there are a few signs that say you might have snagged a hot one!

And if you have? Enjoy and do tell the ladies. Not everyone can be so fortunate to have a man that makes love and does the deed like a champ!

Read More: Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

I Hope You Get Lucky,

Laura

Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.

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As One & Happy,

Laura

Moms, Stop Putting Pressure on Dads to Create the Perfect Valentine’s Day

In case you’ve been living in a bubble since Jan. 1, Valentine’s Day is coming up. Get ready for the dud gifts or the smashed-up chocolates or the gift you didn’t want to end up in your lap. Get ready for the guys and dads standing in line last minute at the drugstore buying cards and chocolate. How terrible, right? I mean, couldn’t they have made some effort? Last minute really shows poor attitude, right? It IS Valentine’s Day, after all! The day of love . . . the day of . . .

Wait a minute!

Let’s think about this logically, moms.

Do you think your marriage or partnership truly weighs heavily on the actions of one day? I mean, it’s true — someone could do something terrible to devastate a relationship in one day, but chances are, buying a card at the drugstore on Valentine’s Day and shoving a box of cheap chocolates in your hands is not the worst thing that will happen to your relationship or marriage. Chances are, your hubby or main squeeze loves you to pieces. That last-minute stop? It felt like effort to him. It felt like effort among all the pressures and stresses of life that a dad feels just like you feel, as a mother.

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Appreciate the Small Things,

Laura

Why Single Moms Should Date Single Dads

I am a lazy dater. By lazy, I mean I don’t put in the real effort required to make online dating work. As a single mom, I should cut myself some slack. I have a lot of other things on my plate and to be completely honest, I love how my life is going as of now. I love my friends, kid, work, and social life — OK, so some weekend nights, I’m stumped on whom to go out with if I am kid-free — so why complicate it with a man? Enough said.

But of course, the idea of romance and love still appeals to me. The idea of intense online dating? It does NOT appeal to me. The reality is if you want to succeed with online dating, you’ve got to go out with a plethora of frogs to meet any potential partner, and right now, I have taken a slight back seat to swiping left and right and mindlessly texting guys who I will probably never meet. When I get a match whom I am not crazy over, I decide to not meet him and, instead, go see friends.

Read More: Why Single Moms Should Date Single Dads

Give a Dad a Chance,

Laura

6 Reasons Single Moms (& Dads) Deserve Love the Second Time Around

As a single mom or dad, you are amazing.

The problem is you most likely don’t realize that, or if you do, you have grown so independent that perhaps you’ve grown to believe that love might never walk down your street.

Society likes to shame moms who have had divorces. Article after article I’ve written, I will always find one person who likes to comment, accusing me falsely of walking out of my marriage, even though that wasn’t the case and even though we went through many rounds of counseling together.

Society likes to make comments about moms — or more likely the state the moms are in — after a father abandons or drops out of the child’s life.

There are so many myths about single parenthood in general, but sometimes, when you’ve grown tired of doing things on your own, it’s hard to not feel down and wonder:

“When will I find love again?”

Read More: 6 Reasons Single Moms (& Dads) Deserve Love the Second Time Around

You Deserve It!

Laura

12 Ways “Type A” People Love Differently

Everyone has his or her own way of expressing love to a partner, but “Type A” people have their own little particular way of showing the people they love a little TLC.

Sometimes, you might feel like your Type A lover always has the answer and you don’t, but we’re not perfect and don’t expect you to be —although we set the bar high for ourselves and sometimes everyone around us.

No matter what, our minds are busy thinking of a million ways to do everything just right and sometimes it’s plain exhausting. Of course, as the object of a Type A’s affection you’ll always feel loved and adored, which is a great thing.

Read More: 12 Ways “Type A” People Love Differently

High-Achieving Love,

Laura

Ditch the Expectations: 12 Cheap Date Nights With Your Partner

While I know some women are incredibly low-maintenance, quite a few of us are guilty of having high expectations. For example, it’s not romance unless the dude comes by on his horse. It’s not a date night if we have to find a sitter for the kids. For women, it’s not love unless the man does exactly the right thing, and lots of it. But if we show up to bed and say, “I want to have sex,” the man is happy. If the guy does the same thing . . . we’re not always happy. Sometimes, it’s not until we have children that we really alter our perspective on what’s romantic — mostly due to time and energy constraints. Suddenly, the act of someone doing the dishes looks romantic.

To get great date night ideas that are cheap, fun, and easy to do if you’re married with kids, read my article: Ditch your high expectations and enjoy these 12 cheap date nights with your partner!

Your Captain & Guide For All Things Fun,

Laura

28 Day Love & Romance Challenge For Married People (Especially Married With Kids!)

One of the things that I missed the most in my marriage, was romance…and sex.

Having an active sex life with your partner whether that’s 1-2x a week or every day is really key in marriages. Once the sex goes, so does everything else. Yet with children on board, romance & sex seem more like metaphorical concepts than realities.

Try my 28 Day Love & Romance Challenge For Married People– especially you with kids, and see the difference in your daily life together.

Read here and take the challenge, or just try some of my romantic and sexy ideas!

Don’t Do Anything I Wouldn’t Do,

Laura