When You Realize Your Worth, You’ll Say Buh-BYE to Lazy Partners & Bad Offers

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There is nothing more joyous than owning your own happiness and realizing how worthy you are.

When you do, it suddenly becomes so easy to laugh off bad partners. To say goodbye to men or women who don’t appreciate you or your value. To not want someone who makes a crappy effort or half-ass effort to be in your life.

It just becomes clear overnight– yes, really— that you deserve better.

So, when your ex comes a calling with same lame offer to Netflix and chill or when some guy or gal who doesn’t really appreciate you wants to hang out– but not commit to you or date and show you how important you are to them–

It’s easy to say, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

For me, there is only one relationship, one situation worth entering into:

The one where the person really makes an effort, is excited to see me and be with me and enjoys being with me.

I am not interested in situationships. I am not interested in being someone’s option. I am not interested in being your or anyone’s friend with benefits.

I am only interested in someone who sees spending time with me as enjoyable and a MUST. Someone who really likes me and finds me fun to be around and wants to get to know me better.

Someone who knows how to ask someone on a date and follow through. Someone who is a good friend, too and caring.

Someone who sees my VALUE. Someone who sees me as so valuable, that he appreciates any second of my time.

That is all I am interested in.

Everyone else, can take their offers elsewhere. My price tag will not be on sale or reduced.

K? Thx. Bye,

Laura

 

It’s Easy to Be Physical But Not So Easy to Love

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Anyone can have a fun physical connection with someone else. Anyone can buy a gift. Send a gift card. Anyone can have a quick cuddle fest or Netflix and “chill.”

But it’s not so easy to love. To be there for someone. To make them feel special. To really get to know them. To include the person in their daily life.

If you’re “seeing” someone and wondering where the relationship lies, just ask yourself these questions and you’ll find that it’s pretty easy to see how much you really matter to someone:

  1.  Is the person trying to get physical with you or getting physical with you, but hasn’t asked you on a date or included you in his/her hangouts with friends? If you answered yes, this person is taking the easy way out– and you don’t matter to him/her.
  2. Is the person available for you physically, but not emotionally? If this is a yes, this person isn’t invested in you beyond casual interactions.

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Someone Who Values You Vs. Someone Who Can’t Take You Out to Dinner

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One of the most important life lessons is to know how valuable you are. Because if you know you are valuable, you will never settle for anyone that makes you feel less then.
It’s taken me a lot longer than most people to realize I am a valuable and worthy person. I’m going to admit right off the bat that it’s very difficult for me sometimes to have any confidence and faith that I am really and truly deserving.

Because I have struggled, I have also learned the difference between somebody who values me and someone who doesn’t. So I’m hoping that sharing this will help others to not make the same mistakes I did. And if you have settled in the past or accepted  less than what you’re worth, don’t feel bad. You’re not alone and just know that every day is a new opportunity to try again and ask more of others and not settle.

 

Can’t Wait to See You Vs. Can’t Take You to Dinner

Oh yes. I’ve been there when the guy can’t even make an effort to take you out. When they have every excuse in the book. That’s not someone who values you. Someone who really values you can’t wait to see you. They’re  so excited and they look forward to getting to know you better.

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Someone Who Really Cares Wants The Commitment & Wants You

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If there’s anything I’ve learned in my life it’s that people who care about you want you and want the commitment. They want the time with you. They want to work to make the relationship happen. They want you and will do their best to make you happy. They want the relationship to succeed and that means, making sacrifices and working to be the best individual and partner they can be.

Someone who doesn’t commit, doesn’t care.
Someone who is selfish or distant, doesn’t care.
Someone who isn’t consistent and isn’t available, doesn’t care.
He or she may like you as a friend. He or she may like you for just sex. He or she may think you’re a good person.
BUT— if he or she doesn’t commit, that person doesn’t want you and doesn’t care.

Commitment shows someone values you. Make no mistake about it.

Tale As Old As Time,

Laura

How to Be in The Moment Romantically & Sexually

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Overthinking and pushing can take you out of the moment when you’re with your partner, whether it’s a sexual or romantic moment.

Looking too hard into the future or overanalyzing things can take away from the pure joy and fun that romance and sex brings.

Here are 3 ways to avoid overthinking and help yourself stay in the moment in the bedroom or wherever you are, with your love interest:

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Do Affair Relationships Last After Divorce?

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Affairs are a hot-button topic, both in the real world and online. From being cheated on to being the cheater, you can find many people who have been affected by marital affairs.

However, once the affair has “wrecked the marriage,” what happens to it? Do the couples stay together after the divorce or do they drift apart?

Before I dive in deep, consider these statistics when it comes to affairs:

  • Only 5 to 7% actually end in marriage
  • Of that number, 75% end in another divorce

I asked one coach, one private investigator, a relationship expert and therapist to tell me what they thought happens to the “affair” after the divorce is signed and sealed.

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Spoiler Alert: Doubtful,

Laura

9 Compliments That Women Love to Hear

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There is nothing like a sweet genuine compliment from a man to make me feel completely loved and charmed. I don’t know about other ladies whether they need that from their male or female partner but, some good verbal affirmations does my heart and soul good.

So, for those of you ladies and gents looking to make a lady feel good, don’t hesitate to speak up and speak out. She wants to be appreciated and when you compliment her, you are showing her that you:

  • Notice how amazing she is
  • Appreciate her
  • Value her
  • Care enough to take the time to shower her with some TLC

Here are some of my most favorite compliments I’ve received. Feel free to share ones you’ve gotten in the comments.

You’re really strong

Acknowledging that I am a strong and resilient person makes me feel capable and appreciated. And admired! This compliment went a long way for me.

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4 Reasons New Relationships Are So Much Fun in the Winter

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The winter may be a most frigid and desolate time, but it’s also a great excuse to cuddle up and start cuffing with someone sexy, fun and new!

The other bonus point is: less bugs. To me, this is always a selling point!

And while winter doesn’t have the warm sultry allure of a rainy summer night or thunderstorm, the chill has its own appeal, especially for new loves!

Staying Inside Means More Face Time (In Real Life)

Instead of mixing and mingling, the cold chill keeps the two of you new love interests inside, face-to face … for serious personal time! The noise and fun of summer is great– and the interactive fall with its mild temperatures are too, but winter gets the two of you to hibernate. And what better way to get to know a new lover and partner?

That Frigid Wind Causes You Both to Be Creative

Eager for action but not going to bother heading outside into the arctic air?

Those cold temps invite the two of you to be creative with each other, which can make for incredible sexy fun!

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Hot & Sexy Valentine’s Day Dates for New Partners & Love Interests

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You just met or are newly dating … but Valentine’s Day is just two weeks away.

What do you do?

You have some exciting, sexy fun!

Of course, all of this depends on how risque you are or not– and how new you are to each other. Second date? Third? Fifth? Dating for a month?

Well, read on for some fun and also on occasion, steamy ideas to make your V-day cosmic. Or orgasmic– depending on your goals!

Innocent Fun

How about a little pottery making? Your hands touch, but it’s sweet and creative.

You can also try a wine and cheese pairing or maybe, head to a brewery.

Light and fun but also, all innocent and easy early dates for new potential couples.

Stepping it Up a Notch

Okay– so you’re ready to dip a toe in a more sexy type of celebration. Good for you!

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Speaks Your Love Language

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Everyone “speaks” love in a different way. For me, when a man is super intelligent, witty and able to verbally charm and compliment me– I melt. I especially am happy if he is handy and also, willing to slow dance or try salsa-merengue!

When you meet someone who does or who just “might” speak your love language, it literally feels like your soul has awoken. Especially when you are a lady like myself who is divorced and ready for fun!

Maybe you want a woman who feeds you the best meals and says I Love You with a steak.

Maybe you need a guy who does nothing extra special, but showers you with gifts.

When someone walks in the room and speaks that undercurrent love language, it is like the floors drop underneath you and a little hope lights up in your heart in the darkest of times. It makes the day (and night) more meaningful.

Stay Bright,

Laura