Do Affair Relationships Last After Divorce?

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Affairs are a hot-button topic, both in the real world and online. From being cheated on to being the cheater, you can find many people who have been affected by marital affairs.

However, once the affair has “wrecked the marriage,” what happens to it? Do the couples stay together after the divorce or do they drift apart?

Before I dive in deep, consider these statistics when it comes to affairs:

  • Only 5 to 7% actually end in marriage
  • Of that number, 75% end in another divorce

I asked one coach, one private investigator, a relationship expert and therapist to tell me what they thought happens to the “affair” after the divorce is signed and sealed.

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Spoiler Alert: Doubtful,

Laura

9 Compliments That Women Love to Hear

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There is nothing like a sweet genuine compliment from a man to make me feel completely loved and charmed. I don’t know about other ladies whether they need that from their male or female partner but, some good verbal affirmations does my heart and soul good.

So, for those of you ladies and gents looking to make a lady feel good, don’t hesitate to speak up and speak out. She wants to be appreciated and when you compliment her, you are showing her that you:

  • Notice how amazing she is
  • Appreciate her
  • Value her
  • Care enough to take the time to shower her with some TLC

Here are some of my most favorite compliments I’ve received. Feel free to share ones you’ve gotten in the comments.

You’re really strong

Acknowledging that I am a strong and resilient person makes me feel capable and appreciated. And admired! This compliment went a long way for me.

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4 Reasons New Relationships Are So Much Fun in the Winter

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The winter may be a most frigid and desolate time, but it’s also a great excuse to cuddle up and start cuffing with someone sexy, fun and new!

The other bonus point is: less bugs. To me, this is always a selling point!

And while winter doesn’t have the warm sultry allure of a rainy summer night or thunderstorm, the chill has its own appeal, especially for new loves!

Staying Inside Means More Face Time (In Real Life)

Instead of mixing and mingling, the cold chill keeps the two of you new love interests inside, face-to face … for serious personal time! The noise and fun of summer is great– and the interactive fall with its mild temperatures are too, but winter gets the two of you to hibernate. And what better way to get to know a new lover and partner?

That Frigid Wind Causes You Both to Be Creative

Eager for action but not going to bother heading outside into the arctic air?

Those cold temps invite the two of you to be creative with each other, which can make for incredible sexy fun!

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Hot & Sexy Valentine’s Day Dates for New Partners & Love Interests

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You just met or are newly dating … but Valentine’s Day is just two weeks away.

What do you do?

You have some exciting, sexy fun!

Of course, all of this depends on how risque you are or not– and how new you are to each other. Second date? Third? Fifth? Dating for a month?

Well, read on for some fun and also on occasion, steamy ideas to make your V-day cosmic. Or orgasmic– depending on your goals!

Innocent Fun

How about a little pottery making? Your hands touch, but it’s sweet and creative.

You can also try a wine and cheese pairing or maybe, head to a brewery.

Light and fun but also, all innocent and easy early dates for new potential couples.

Stepping it Up a Notch

Okay– so you’re ready to dip a toe in a more sexy type of celebration. Good for you!

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Speaks Your Love Language

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Everyone “speaks” love in a different way. For me, when a man is super intelligent, witty and able to verbally charm and compliment me– I melt. I especially am happy if he is handy and also, willing to slow dance or try salsa-merengue!

When you meet someone who does or who just “might” speak your love language, it literally feels like your soul has awoken. Especially when you are a lady like myself who is divorced and ready for fun!

Maybe you want a woman who feeds you the best meals and says I Love You with a steak.

Maybe you need a guy who does nothing extra special, but showers you with gifts.

When someone walks in the room and speaks that undercurrent love language, it is like the floors drop underneath you and a little hope lights up in your heart in the darkest of times. It makes the day (and night) more meaningful.

Stay Bright,

Laura

 

That Exciting Feeling When You & A New Love Interest Have Chemistry

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Chemistry: it sort of feels like your body is on fire … in a really good way!

Maybe it was a great phone conversation. Maybe it was a quick, but really full of potential– coffee date. Maybe it’s just the heat you’re feeling with someone. Whatever the case, that first sign of spark can really rev up your engine emotionally, and physically!

When these signs of life show, it’s hard to not get too excited and start imagining the two of you on a very secluded beach drinking frozen cocktails and slipping off for a skinny dip– but keep your head level!

  • This might turn into something amazing … or, it may fizzle out. Either way, at least you’re having fun, right?
  • It feels great– so stay positive and hope for the best, but don’t let your imagination get away with you.
  • Focus on the fun– it’s refreshing to have a good time and feel connected to someone, so stay as present in the moment as you can.

May this spark keep you dancing until the late hours,

Laura

 

Thoughts on Holiday Romantic Highs & Lows

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The holidays are a frenzied time of highs and lows for most people. If you’re entering into the New Year still a bit dizzy over the past few weeks, you’re not alone. Depending on your own personal situation with love, perhaps the holidays were very successful and romantic, or perhaps it was not at all. It may have even been a mix of highs and lows– that is life, after all. Here are some typical holiday romantic highs and lows, and how to deal with them as you enter in the new year.

You got amazing gifts from your loved one.

Your partner or love interest spoiled you rotten. After the high and delight from such care and love, you are probably feeling really confident in your relationship. Treasure it! And also realize that some times, your partner won’t be able to be as doting.

VS.

Your love interest didn’t get you a gift

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Do You Want a Relationship Built on Sex or Intimacy?

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What does it mean to build a relationship towards intimacy versus what it means to build a relationship of sex?

It really depends on what you want. If you value the person and desire closeness, intimacy is the path you’d like to take.

If you just find the person attractive and don’t want to be close to them other than for carnal needs, sex is the path you’d like to take.

There are some easy key differences between these two paths, so let’s dive in and discuss them, as well as discuss which path is better.

While sex is intimate and part of intimacy, taking your relationship down the path of sex does not guarantee closeness. And while taking your relationship down the path of intimacy includes sex, it does includes closeness.

One path builds continuously and evolves, while the other path is limited and steady.

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15 Great Date Ideas for Love Interests, Spouses & More in 2020

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2020 just sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Well, it’s about to get more fun, frisky and fabulous with these 15 great date night ideas for all 4 seasons. (Of course, some of you don’t get the 4 seasons, but don’t let that phase you.) I can’t wait to hopefully put these different date ideas to the test– we shall see what the year brings me!– and I hope you like them as well. Some of them are as basic as can be– movie night, anyone? And some are a bit on the more creative side– anyone feel like attending a sexy masquerade? Whatever your speed, I am sure you’ll find something in here that’s right for you and the person who makes you tingle all over.

We all know there is nothing worse than a date that simply sucks, or is with a psycho. So, grab your hottest guy, gal or whatever pronoun you prefer, and test out these 15 great date night ideas in 2020!

Winter

1. Hit a Trade Show

Does your lady love motorcycles? Is he dying to test out the latest in robotics? What about erotica?

The winter is a great time for a trade show. Spend the day together geeking out over whatever it is you two love– or watch your love interest go crazy.

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Where Do You Stand With Your Man?

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Men are pretty simple I think. I don’t say that to be condescending or negative. I see the simplicity as a positive. Basically, if a man likes you, you know it. If he’s on the fence about you– you know it. If he doesn’t like you– you know it. Of course, there is always room for situational and individual differences. Some men may be shy or, unsure of how to read your signals in response to him, whether you’re a woman or another man. This may make him appear as more or less interested depending on the situation.

But as a general guide, here are some signs to notice when you’re trying to decide where you stand with a man.

1. How He Sees You & When He Sees You

If a man likes you, he makes an effort to see you despite his hectic schedule.

He also will make sure to see you to do things with you or to just hang and talk to you– not just to fool around.  Not that there is anything wrong with physical intimacy!  Intimacy is very important, but, there is a difference between physical intimacy and a hook up, so don’t count frequent texts to come over for “action” as an indicator of deep emotions.

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