10 Simple, Sexy Ways To Show A Man Intimacy (Without Jumping Into Bed)

Intimacy isn’t solely about sex. Sure, sex counts an awful lot, but that’s not the only factor that goes into building an intimate and passionate relationship.

We all know you can have sex without real intimacy and connection, but how can you be intimate with a man beyond or besides simply intercourse? Here’s how to be intimate without jumping into bed, and they are guaranteed to make his body ache just a little.

1. Give each other a naked massage.

Forget the clothes. Forget the half-clothed shoulder rubs. Get naked, both of you, and give him a massage.

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13 Signs You’ve DEFINITELY Met Your Sexual Soulmate

When you meet someone and all the stars align into one huge (or many delightful) orgasms and your skin is glowing like you’re lit up from the inside, you’ve met your sexual soulmate! You know finding good sex isn’t always easy and finding your sexual soulmate is like hitting the jackpot.

When two bodies align in one supernova fantasy, it’s pretty damn amazing. Here are 13 signs you’ve met your sexual soulmate.

1. They listen without judgment.

You know that moment when you get a sexual idea in your head but you’re afraid to bring it up in case the other person says, “No way!” and thinks you’re a total freak? Your sexual soulmate listens to your sexual ideas with an eagerness akin to a dog begging for a bone. Your sexual soulmate wants to hear what you have to say, even if, ultimately, he or she doesn’t say yes to your sexual need. This person also doesn’t judge.

2. You want sex at the same time.

Some people like it all the time. Others like it at certain times of the month. Your sexual soulmate will want sex with the same frequency as you, whether it’s only on Sundays or every damn day of the week.

Read More: 13 Signs You’ve DEFINITELY Met Your Sexual Soulmate

Kismet,

Laura

8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

It’s always a party when someone gets engaged or married. Wahoo! It’s the best. Couple’s life…right?

Not always. Not everyone was born to be married to the same person for the rest of his or her life, and that’s ok. In fact, there are many unhappily married people out there. Enough to make you wonder how viable the institution is in the first place. Of course—there’s nothing wrong with marriage…but there’s also nothing wrong with being single. It can be a happier and in fact, more liberating choice for so many damn reasons that no one should be surprised to meet someone over 30 who decided not to “tie the knot.”

Being single is sexy and a lot of times, it’s sexier.

Here’s why:

1) They Don’t Let Themselves Go

I’m sorry but way too many married people take their coupledom as an excuse to let themselves go. There’s nothing wrong with a doughnut or three, but disregarding your health and letting your body go isn’t good for anyone long-term, single or married.

Read More: 8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

One is the Hottest Number,

Laura

5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee

Listen up, girlfriends: All those times you’ve been saying you’ve got a headache is secretly jeopardizing your home and employment life. Having more sex makes you a better employee—and mother! No, really. The more times you hop in the sack, the more likely you are to hit a home run at work and with the kiddos. Here’s why:

1. You’ll Get Better Sleep

Having sex helps you get better sleep—something we could all use. As you bond with your partner, your body secretes the hormone oxytocin, often called “the love hormone.” That’s also the same hormone responsible for bonding with your baby, especially when nursing. Thanks to oxytocin, your body will be more relaxed, so you’ll be less stressed, leading to better sleep for you, mama.

And with better sleep comes a brighter morning handling a bunch of kids before running off to work and kicking serious butt in the office. So say yes next time your significant other wants to get frisky. Maybe you’ll get a raise, too!

 

Read More: 5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee

Do It Tonight,

Laura

What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

How you love, live and seduce in the bedroom says a lot about your personality. The bedroom is a place of play, intimacy, and secrecy in many aspects for your average adult. Even though many of us have many different facets and aspects to our personality, the bedroom can reveal sides of ourselves that no one else has seen before, other than our partners.

So what really can your bedroom style say about your sex personality? More than you would care to admit.

Dominant Style

A person who is domineering in bed is behaving as such for two reasons: lacking power in his or her real life, or craves power in all aspects of his or her world.

For the person craving power, he or she may be having issues at work or be unemployed. He or she might be under financial stress or having to make personal sacrifices that he or she doesn’t want to do. Perhaps it’s a woman who spent years with a controlling and abusive man and she now wants to reclaim power. Perhaps it’s a man who was cheated on and emasculated by a former wife or partner. Gaining his mojo back requires a little power in-between the sheets.

The bedroom is then a place to earn back some pride and power in a life of feeling powerless. Sex and the bedroom are separate domains to “get it back” and feel confident again. It can make an underdog a hero again, at least in the bedroom sense of “hero.”

Read More: What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

What Type Are You?

Laura

How to Use Wine in the Bedroom

You’ve met a very discerning man or a scintillating lady of taste. You’ve been on your very best behavior. You mentioned your stint in the Peace Corps twice and then once more because they were rustling their napkin the first time and chewing loudly the second. You dropped mention of all your charity works and in between describing all the joys you have brought to the less fortunate, you remembered to flash your abs, flex your arms, or push out your chest and bat your eyelids. The mating dance is officially complete, and it’s finally that time: the Sexy Time. 

But all your grad school accomplishments and your fancy office and your good deeds won’t get your new amour in bed quite like a great bottle of wine will. Here’s how to use wine in the bedroom:

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Va-va Voom!

Laura

Why Men Want A FREAK In The Sheets & A LADY In The Streets

What do men want? I constantly wonder. To me, they’re often mysterious creatures just as much as women are to them.

But there are two things I have learned about men that I think stands the test of time: if you’re a freak in bed, they don’t want you advertising it. They don’t want the whole world to know that their woman likes it hard, often and nasty. They don’t want other men knowing you want it kinky, wild or frequently.

Unfair, isn’t it? Damn right. But it’s the truth. Why? Think about it: Your man might love to brag to his friends that you’re kinky, wild and like sex often. Your man might want to say to all the guys complaining that their women “don’t give them any,” that “My woman satisfies me all the time. And then some.”

He might want you to go out and wear something sexy. He may absolutely love it when other men look at you and find you desirable. He doesn’t want his friends to ogle your body; he wants them to appreciate your beauty.

Read More:Why Men Want A FREAK In The Sheets & A LADY In The Streets

Just Saying,

Laura

7 Reasons the Cold Wife Stereotype Is Bad For Our Sex Lives

Movie after television sitcom after insert another media outlet portrays mothers as cold fish: “I have a headache and don’t want sex tonight,” ad nausem. Somehow, mothers (women) are always too tired, have a headache, shut their partners out, or just don’t want sex. All of this is bollocks. This isn’t to say that a mom won’t “shut down” a partner for a variety of reasons, especially in the few months or first year of an infant’s life, but that the cold frigid wife stereotype needs to go for a variety of reasons.

1. We Aren’t Here to Be On-Demand Sex Toys

Portraying women as unavailable and frigid sexual partners sort of assumes that we are supposed to be available for sex any time our partners want it. Sorry, but that’s not the case. Sometimes, a partner doesn’t deserve a round of “bedroom hockey.”

Read More: 7 Reasons the Cold Wife Stereotype Is Bad For Our Sex Lives

Watch What You Say (& Think),

Laura

6 Reasons An Older Man May Be a Great Partner

You met an older man, and you’re rather compelled by his wit, charm, and success. Who can blame you? You may be taken aback at the idea of being with him; maybe the age gap is so large that you’re thinking those few years or significant ones may derail the relationship. One of the true advantages of being with your peers is that you have so many social and cultural references and, most likely, a similar outlook on how the world should work. The older man in this case then may be a bit intimidating. No matter — whether you’re interested in a purely physical fling, a dinner date, or committing to this man, there are many good reasons to make him your bedroom partner. All of them worth exploring!

1. He’s Confident in All the Right Ways

The older man is comfortable in his skin. He’s already gone through his “awkward, unsure” phase and he’s sexily adapted to his body and personality. He’s not out to impress you or to be someone he’s not. He knows what he has to offer and isn’t out to desperately please anyone. This lack of pretense and full acceptance of himself makes him a pleasure to be around and . . .

Read More: 6 Reasons An Older Man May Be a Great Partner

Give Him a Shot,

Laura

How to Tell If Your Body Image Is Negatively Affecting Your Sex Life

The two of you are there, in the middle of the most passionate and intimate act — sex — when your hideous and incorrect views of your body cause discomfort, displeasure, or sadness in the middle of the deed! Except here comes the worst part: you don’t even know that this is happening but your partner, who is the victim as well in your bad body image game, is aware. Painfully so. You may not even realize it, but your toxic feelings about your body are ruining the most precious and intimate aspect of your relationship. Here are four signs that your body image is negatively affecting your sex life.

1. You Experiment Less

Because you think your thighs, butt, or what have you are too big, too small, or not right, you experiment less in the bedroom. You’re uncomfortable in your skin and so you’re not ready to jump into a sexual relationship feeling confident and free. Instead, you’re feeling burdened and restrained.

Read More: How to Tell If Your Body Image Is Negatively Affecting Your Sex Life

It’s Damaging,

Laura