9 Traits Grown Women Find Seriously Attractive in Men

Lots of guys ask questions like, “Why do girls like bad boys?”, wondering what it is women find even remotely attractive about men who end up hurting them. But if you really want to know how to get a girl to like you, the last place you should look for inspiration about what women find attractive are those rebels without a clue. And women, you should be paying no attention at all to those bad boys. They’ll only leave you high and dry, and they’re really no fun, save for – maybe – a few bedroom romps.

Honestly, if you’re over 21, you probably already know how quickly these kinds of guys lose their appeal. They’ve got a clear expiration date. They’re cute when they’re young, but as a girl matures into a woman, her patience for them disappears. And while the saying that “Good men are hard to find” may be popular for good reason, the good news is that at least they aren’t impossible to find. They do exist! And when we ladies finally figure out how to find a good man, there are so many things about that person that we love that we cannot help but overlook the small things he might do to upset us.

Truly, when you break it down, bad guys are “boys,” but good guys are “men.” Would you rather play with a boy – or run with a man? So guys, here are the dominant personality traits grown women find most attractive and utterly irresistible about a good man that make bad boys look like little babies. (After all, ladies, if you want to find a good man, you need to know what you’re looking for and why these men are so much better than that “bad boy” who’s been stringing you along.)

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Boys Drool, Men Rule,

Laura

If You Think Sex With Your Husband Is a Chore, You’re in Trouble

I was killing some time on social media when I found a particularly interesting post about suggested gifts for a partner. A few of the women joked that sex would be their gift to their partner. The main gist was: I know he really wants sex, so I’ll just do it for him this time. That’ll be his gift.

There was a huge response from other women that screamed, “That’s right, girl! Throw him some sex and keep him quiet for a bit.”

I didn’t comment. I was a bit floored.

I’ve never understood the whole “sex as a chore” trope between couples. Although as it’s been played out on sitcoms (and, apparently, my social media feed), the dominant thread seems to be more often than not, women feeling imposed on by partners to have sex. Just like watering a plant, it sounds like something one must do in order to get on with their day.

Not that anyone should be forcing or pressuring a partner to have sex, but the view that sex is a job and chore to be checked off on a list and not a pleasure is extremely problematic for so many reasons.

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No Bueno,

Laura

10 Men Share How They Know Whether A Woman Is Short-Term Fun Or Worthy Of A Long-Term Relationship

Have you ever wondered what makes a guy settle down? Have you ever watched a lifelong bachelor finally decide on someone? What about your guy friends? Have you seen them swoon over one woman and act indifferent to another? Have you, as a woman, sat there before or during a date and made some sort of strategy, whether it was to hold off on kissing, sex, or avoiding or encouraging certain kinds of conversations?

I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how men categorize women they meet, strategizing and deciding how much of myself to reveal, give or offer up. After all, that’s what will make a good relationship in the long-run.

It’s always seemed straightforward: if a woman really likes a man, she should make him work for it and not give up too much. Because if a woman is too quick to hop in bed or seems to be too eager to be involved, a man puts her in that “short-term fling” category, instead of someone he’d want a long-term relationship with.

Read More: 10 Men Share How They Know Whether A Woman Is Short-Term Fun Or Worthy Of A Long-Term Relationship

Get the Scoop,

Laura

10 Simple, Sexy Ways To Show A Man Intimacy (Without Jumping Into Bed)

Intimacy isn’t solely about sex. Sure, sex counts an awful lot, but that’s not the only factor that goes into building an intimate and passionate relationship.

We all know you can have sex without real intimacy and connection, but how can you be intimate with a man beyond or besides simply intercourse? Here’s how to be intimate without jumping into bed, and they are guaranteed to make his body ache just a little.

1. Give each other a naked massage.

Forget the clothes. Forget the half-clothed shoulder rubs. Get naked, both of you, and give him a massage.

13 Signs You’ve DEFINITELY Met Your Sexual Soulmate

When you meet someone and all the stars align into one huge (or many delightful) orgasms and your skin is glowing like you’re lit up from the inside, you’ve met your sexual soulmate! You know finding good sex isn’t always easy and finding your sexual soulmate is like hitting the jackpot.

When two bodies align in one supernova fantasy, it’s pretty damn amazing. Here are 13 signs you’ve met your sexual soulmate.

1. They listen without judgment.

You know that moment when you get a sexual idea in your head but you’re afraid to bring it up in case the other person says, “No way!” and thinks you’re a total freak? Your sexual soulmate listens to your sexual ideas with an eagerness akin to a dog begging for a bone. Your sexual soulmate wants to hear what you have to say, even if, ultimately, he or she doesn’t say yes to your sexual need. This person also doesn’t judge.

2. You want sex at the same time.

Some people like it all the time. Others like it at certain times of the month. Your sexual soulmate will want sex with the same frequency as you, whether it’s only on Sundays or every damn day of the week.

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Kismet,

Laura

8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

It’s always a party when someone gets engaged or married. Wahoo! It’s the best. Couple’s life…right?

Not always. Not everyone was born to be married to the same person for the rest of his or her life, and that’s ok. In fact, there are many unhappily married people out there. Enough to make you wonder how viable the institution is in the first place. Of course—there’s nothing wrong with marriage…but there’s also nothing wrong with being single. It can be a happier and in fact, more liberating choice for so many damn reasons that no one should be surprised to meet someone over 30 who decided not to “tie the knot.”

Being single is sexy and a lot of times, it’s sexier.

Here’s why:

1) They Don’t Let Themselves Go

I’m sorry but way too many married people take their coupledom as an excuse to let themselves go. There’s nothing wrong with a doughnut or three, but disregarding your health and letting your body go isn’t good for anyone long-term, single or married.

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One is the Hottest Number,

Laura

5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee

Listen up, girlfriends: All those times you’ve been saying you’ve got a headache is secretly jeopardizing your home and employment life. Having more sex makes you a better employee—and mother! No, really. The more times you hop in the sack, the more likely you are to hit a home run at work and with the kiddos. Here’s why:

1. You’ll Get Better Sleep

Having sex helps you get better sleep—something we could all use. As you bond with your partner, your body secretes the hormone oxytocin, often called “the love hormone.” That’s also the same hormone responsible for bonding with your baby, especially when nursing. Thanks to oxytocin, your body will be more relaxed, so you’ll be less stressed, leading to better sleep for you, mama.

And with better sleep comes a brighter morning handling a bunch of kids before running off to work and kicking serious butt in the office. So say yes next time your significant other wants to get frisky. Maybe you’ll get a raise, too!

 

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Do It Tonight,

Laura

What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

How you love, live and seduce in the bedroom says a lot about your personality. The bedroom is a place of play, intimacy, and secrecy in many aspects for your average adult. Even though many of us have many different facets and aspects to our personality, the bedroom can reveal sides of ourselves that no one else has seen before, other than our partners.

So what really can your bedroom style say about your sex personality? More than you would care to admit.

Dominant Style

A person who is domineering in bed is behaving as such for two reasons: lacking power in his or her real life, or craves power in all aspects of his or her world.

For the person craving power, he or she may be having issues at work or be unemployed. He or she might be under financial stress or having to make personal sacrifices that he or she doesn’t want to do. Perhaps it’s a woman who spent years with a controlling and abusive man and she now wants to reclaim power. Perhaps it’s a man who was cheated on and emasculated by a former wife or partner. Gaining his mojo back requires a little power in-between the sheets.

The bedroom is then a place to earn back some pride and power in a life of feeling powerless. Sex and the bedroom are separate domains to “get it back” and feel confident again. It can make an underdog a hero again, at least in the bedroom sense of “hero.”

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What Type Are You?

Laura

How to Use Wine in the Bedroom

You’ve met a very discerning man or a scintillating lady of taste. You’ve been on your very best behavior. You mentioned your stint in the Peace Corps twice and then once more because they were rustling their napkin the first time and chewing loudly the second. You dropped mention of all your charity works and in between describing all the joys you have brought to the less fortunate, you remembered to flash your abs, flex your arms, or push out your chest and bat your eyelids. The mating dance is officially complete, and it’s finally that time: the Sexy Time. 

But all your grad school accomplishments and your fancy office and your good deeds won’t get your new amour in bed quite like a great bottle of wine will. Here’s how to use wine in the bedroom:

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Va-va Voom!

Laura

Why Men Want A FREAK In The Sheets & A LADY In The Streets

What do men want? I constantly wonder. To me, they’re often mysterious creatures just as much as women are to them.

But there are two things I have learned about men that I think stands the test of time: if you’re a freak in bed, they don’t want you advertising it. They don’t want the whole world to know that their woman likes it hard, often and nasty. They don’t want other men knowing you want it kinky, wild or frequently.

Unfair, isn’t it? Damn right. But it’s the truth. Why? Think about it: Your man might love to brag to his friends that you’re kinky, wild and like sex often. Your man might want to say to all the guys complaining that their women “don’t give them any,” that “My woman satisfies me all the time. And then some.”

He might want you to go out and wear something sexy. He may absolutely love it when other men look at you and find you desirable. He doesn’t want his friends to ogle your body; he wants them to appreciate your beauty.

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Just Saying,

Laura