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8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

In divorce, sex, Single Life on February 16, 2017 at 2:12 am

It’s always a party when someone gets engaged or married. Wahoo! It’s the best. Couple’s life…right?

Not always. Not everyone was born to be married to the same person for the rest of his or her life, and that’s ok. In fact, there are many unhappily married people out there. Enough to make you wonder how viable the institution is in the first place. Of course—there’s nothing wrong with marriage…but there’s also nothing wrong with being single. It can be a happier and in fact, more liberating choice for so many damn reasons that no one should be surprised to meet someone over 30 who decided not to “tie the knot.”

Being single is sexy and a lot of times, it’s sexier.

Here’s why:

1) They Don’t Let Themselves Go

I’m sorry but way too many married people take their coupledom as an excuse to let themselves go. There’s nothing wrong with a doughnut or three, but disregarding your health and letting your body go isn’t good for anyone long-term, single or married.

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One is the Hottest Number,


5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee

In career, motherhood, sex, working mom life on January 30, 2017 at 8:54 pm

Listen up, girlfriends: All those times you’ve been saying you’ve got a headache is secretly jeopardizing your home and employment life. Having more sex makes you a better employee—and mother! No, really. The more times you hop in the sack, the more likely you are to hit a home run at work and with the kiddos. Here’s why:

1. You’ll Get Better Sleep

Having sex helps you get better sleep—something we could all use. As you bond with your partner, your body secretes the hormone oxytocin, often called “the love hormone.” That’s also the same hormone responsible for bonding with your baby, especially when nursing. Thanks to oxytocin, your body will be more relaxed, so you’ll be less stressed, leading to better sleep for you, mama.

And with better sleep comes a brighter morning handling a bunch of kids before running off to work and kicking serious butt in the office. So say yes next time your significant other wants to get frisky. Maybe you’ll get a raise, too!


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Do It Tonight,


Dear Lazy Wives: Lose The Yoga Pants And Wear The DAMN Lingerie

In marriage, marriage advice, sex on January 26, 2017 at 2:50 am

If YOU won’t wear lingerie for your husband, who will?

I was at a mom’s event listening to all the woman chatter. One mom told me how she loved her yoga pants.

“I live in them,” she said.

“They’re comfortable,” I offered.

“My husband says I wear them too much. He complained. He asked if I would buy some sexy lingerie. He wants me to wear lingerie for him rather than these.”

She pointed down to her yoga pants and continued on, “I’m NOT wearing lingerie for him.” She snorted, chuckling like it was the most insane request a husband could make for a wife.

Before walking away I told her, “I think you should. I’m sure you’ll look great.”

Because if she’s not wearing lingerie for him, who is she wearing it for? And if she’s not wearing lingerie for him, who will instead?

Isn’t your husband the one person you should wear lingerie for? I mean, it’s OK to have your hot fantasies about that random guy at the gym or your old boyfriend from college, but shouldn’t this woman — shouldn’t every woman — want to wear lingerie for their husbands?

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Wear It,


What Your Dirty Talk Style REALLY Says About Your Personality

In sex on January 3, 2017 at 1:20 am

What your lips reveal during sex says a lot about you…

What you say in bed can reveal more than what type of lover you are, but also what kind of person you are. Your fears. Your thoughts. Your core persona. Dirty talk, or lack of, shows more than you want it to.

Actions may speak louder than words, but words are very telling. Words can reveal more than we want it to, especially in the most intimate of moments. What does your dirty talk style say about your personality? Let’s dive in, shall we?

1. You’re silent.

There are two kinds of “silent partners”: one who is silent due to fear or embarrassment, and the other that is silent due to shame and repression. The silent partner, who is silent out of fear or embarrassment, is a complex person who has a lot brewing underneath.

On one hand, the silent partner is silent because he or she has watched porn and found all the “chatter” to be utterly fake and foolish. The silent one figures opening up a mouth to say something dirty will only result in looking foolish. This person is not apt to take risks in life, yet will seem simpler on the surface than he or she really is.

For example, the silent partner might desire to make a career change but won’t say anything. He will surf the internet and do all the research and tell no one… until he can’t wait another minute longer. This same silent partner might be dying to say, “Let’s have anal,” but it will take quite some time before it comes out. Don’t underestimate the silent partner. Just in all matters including sex, be patient.

This same partner will also be incredibly down-to-earth and easy-going. You won’t find this person to be high maintenance and, in many ways, can be a homebody.

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Talk Isn’t Always Cheap,



What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

In relationships, sex on December 15, 2016 at 2:03 am

How you love, live and seduce in the bedroom says a lot about your personality. The bedroom is a place of play, intimacy, and secrecy in many aspects for your average adult. Even though many of us have many different facets and aspects to our personality, the bedroom can reveal sides of ourselves that no one else has seen before, other than our partners.

So what really can your bedroom style say about your sex personality? More than you would care to admit.

Dominant Style

A person who is domineering in bed is behaving as such for two reasons: lacking power in his or her real life, or craves power in all aspects of his or her world.

For the person craving power, he or she may be having issues at work or be unemployed. He or she might be under financial stress or having to make personal sacrifices that he or she doesn’t want to do. Perhaps it’s a woman who spent years with a controlling and abusive man and she now wants to reclaim power. Perhaps it’s a man who was cheated on and emasculated by a former wife or partner. Gaining his mojo back requires a little power in-between the sheets.

The bedroom is then a place to earn back some pride and power in a life of feeling powerless. Sex and the bedroom are separate domains to “get it back” and feel confident again. It can make an underdog a hero again, at least in the bedroom sense of “hero.”

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What Type Are You?


How to Use Wine in the Bedroom

In humor, sex on December 12, 2016 at 3:27 am

You’ve met a very discerning man or a scintillating lady of taste. You’ve been on your very best behavior. You mentioned your stint in the Peace Corps twice and then once more because they were rustling their napkin the first time and chewing loudly the second. You dropped mention of all your charity works and in between describing all the joys you have brought to the less fortunate, you remembered to flash your abs, flex your arms, or push out your chest and bat your eyelids. The mating dance is officially complete, and it’s finally that time: the Sexy Time. 

But all your grad school accomplishments and your fancy office and your good deeds won’t get your new amour in bed quite like a great bottle of wine will. Here’s how to use wine in the bedroom:

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Va-va Voom!


Why Men Want A FREAK In The Sheets & A LADY In The Streets

In relationships, sex on August 6, 2016 at 2:07 am

What do men want? I constantly wonder. To me, they’re often mysterious creatures just as much as women are to them.

But there are two things I have learned about men that I think stands the test of time: if you’re a freak in bed, they don’t want you advertising it. They don’t want the whole world to know that their woman likes it hard, often and nasty. They don’t want other men knowing you want it kinky, wild or frequently.

Unfair, isn’t it? Damn right. But it’s the truth. Why? Think about it: Your man might love to brag to his friends that you’re kinky, wild and like sex often. Your man might want to say to all the guys complaining that their women “don’t give them any,” that “My woman satisfies me all the time. And then some.”

He might want you to go out and wear something sexy. He may absolutely love it when other men look at you and find you desirable. He doesn’t want his friends to ogle your body; he wants them to appreciate your beauty.

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Just Saying,


4 Reasons Your Hot Co-Worker Is Completely Off Limits

In career, dating, dating advice, sex, Uncategorized on May 31, 2016 at 5:59 pm

The new hire is in, and wow! He’s hot. Or . . . she’s amazingly gorgeous.

And I am talking jaw-dropping, toe-curling, panty . . . (is “wetting” a word?) hot!

You want to invite this co-worker to your desk ASAP for a chat on everything and anything related to work. OK, that’s a complete lie. You want to invite this scrumptious delight to your desk to get a better look, however, you need to hold on “Bae” with the “I’m going to be the most helpful co-worker for the newbie” routine.

You cannot, I repeat, you cannot lay a manicured finger on that “10.” Here’s why:

1. Word Gets Around

The second the word gets out that you and Mr. or Mrs. Hottie from the IT department are knockin’ boots, guess who everyone will talk about? YOU. Not as much Mr. or Mrs. Hottie, just you.

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Don’t Sh*t Where You Eat,


5 Stages of Sex – Post Divorce

In divorce, divorce advice, sex on March 17, 2016 at 3:06 pm

As you separate from your partner, a whole new reality is in front of you.

You get to have sex now. With other people!

You may be psyched or you may be deathly frightened of the idea of perhaps, somewhere in the middle of those two emotions. Don’t be surprised if you happen to vacillate between the two: intensely excited and deathly afraid! After being with one person for a long time, potentially decades, it’s almost an out of body experience being with a new person.

The First Stage: REALIZATION

This is the light bulb moment in which you, the person getting a divorce realizes:

“I’m going to get a taste of the strange.”

You might then run wild on Tinder or you might mildly flirt with your local Starbucks barista. No matter how you react, the light bulb is off and this opens a minefield of possibilities in your brain. This is also when people may start to ask you if you’re dating or not after divorce. This is when your very close friends will tell you: “Wait to date,” because they see you’re somewhat vulnerable.

This is when people from your past will pour into your life in droves (for some odd karmic reason).

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It’s a Process,


7 Reasons the Cold Wife Stereotype Is Bad For Our Sex Lives

In marriage, marriage advice, motherhood, relationships, sex, women's issues on March 14, 2016 at 8:10 pm

Movie after television sitcom after insert another media outlet portrays mothers as cold fish: “I have a headache and don’t want sex tonight,” ad nausem. Somehow, mothers (women) are always too tired, have a headache, shut their partners out, or just don’t want sex. All of this is bollocks. This isn’t to say that a mom won’t “shut down” a partner for a variety of reasons, especially in the few months or first year of an infant’s life, but that the cold frigid wife stereotype needs to go for a variety of reasons.

1. We Aren’t Here to Be On-Demand Sex Toys

Portraying women as unavailable and frigid sexual partners sort of assumes that we are supposed to be available for sex any time our partners want it. Sorry, but that’s not the case. Sometimes, a partner doesn’t deserve a round of “bedroom hockey.”

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Watch What You Say (& Think),