When to Accept It’s Over For You

I hesitated to write this but felt compelled to get it off my petite shoulders.

I am happily single but there is one thing that I have yet to grapple with. The fact that it is over.

Oh not my marriage. That I am totally fine with being over. Yes, I said that. I am fine with having a divorce. I am not grieving the end anymore. I am sure once I get word that my divorce is final that I may feel some sadness but to be honest, I am not sure there will be any more pain. I am done, done, done. And so is he. That chapter is long shut.

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Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

You’ve met someone. And this time? You think you might actually like him. When his name starts to get peppered into your conversations with friends, that’s when they start popping the questions:

  • Did you two kiss?
  • Have you done it?
  • What’s he like in bed?

The questions fall out of their mouths like wildfire but the fact remains that you haven’t done the deed with him yet. It’s just been intense makeout sessions or perhaps not even that. So how do you know if this new man is going to deliver when it comes time to hit the sheets? Well, there’s no scientific guarantee to measure whether your man is going to curl your toes or not, but there are a few signs that say you might have snagged a hot one!

And if you have? Enjoy and do tell the ladies. Not everyone can be so fortunate to have a man that makes love and does the deed like a champ!

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I Hope You Get Lucky,

Laura

Set Your Price High

I recently met a man randomly. It wasn’t online. It was a simple chance encounter.

Honestly, it was the kind of random encounter that novelists and film makers concoct in some huge romantic comedy or drama. It was the type of thing I could talk about happening in theory, but it wouldn’t actually happen.

Until it did.

He was a supposedly, loving, smart, educated, kind and easy-going man. We had an instant connection and rapport. He didn’t leave me alone for much more than a second, always calling or texting me to ask how I was. To tell me he was thinking about me. To help me with something. Always another excuse to just randomly stop by. Even if he wasn’t in the area, he was suddenly in the area.

I thought to myself, “What a great guy.”

I couldn’t get enough of our conversations. Everything about him, was amazing. It was as if I had known him forever. I could sit in silence with him, happily.

Yes, me. Quiet. With him. A man.

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3 Ways to Gently Nudge Your Husband to Be Better in the Bedroom

Your best man may not have the heart to tell you what he wants differently in the bedroom, but he certainly will ask for you to try new things or simply to enter the bedroom with him. But moms? Well, we hesitate to ask for anything different in bed lest we hurt the male ego, which can brood silently for weeks, months, and years without a word until bam — he’s snapped! You don’t want to hurt Dad’s feelings if he’s not quite hitting the spot in the bedroom, but in a healthy relationship you should be able to ask for something you want (within reason) and the person should be willing to at least hear you out. Here are some ways you can gently nudge your man to be better in the bedroom without releasing the wrath of khan or ending up in divorce court!

Do the Work For Him With Confidence and Play

Confidence and play make the medicine go down in the most delightful way when done carefully. So if his spoon full of sugar isn’t quite right, whether it’s a particular position or oral sex technique, take the lead! Ask to switch positions, or ask him if you can show him how you love it. Tell him it would make you so happy to do the work and let him sit back and watch (and hopefully) learn.

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Get Into It Girl!

Laura

Moms, Stop Putting Pressure on Dads to Create the Perfect Valentine’s Day

In case you’ve been living in a bubble since Jan. 1, Valentine’s Day is coming up. Get ready for the dud gifts or the smashed-up chocolates or the gift you didn’t want to end up in your lap. Get ready for the guys and dads standing in line last minute at the drugstore buying cards and chocolate. How terrible, right? I mean, couldn’t they have made some effort? Last minute really shows poor attitude, right? It IS Valentine’s Day, after all! The day of love . . . the day of . . .

Wait a minute!

Let’s think about this logically, moms.

Do you think your marriage or partnership truly weighs heavily on the actions of one day? I mean, it’s true — someone could do something terrible to devastate a relationship in one day, but chances are, buying a card at the drugstore on Valentine’s Day and shoving a box of cheap chocolates in your hands is not the worst thing that will happen to your relationship or marriage. Chances are, your hubby or main squeeze loves you to pieces. That last-minute stop? It felt like effort to him. It felt like effort among all the pressures and stresses of life that a dad feels just like you feel, as a mother.

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Appreciate the Small Things,

Laura

Why Single Moms Should Date Single Dads

I am a lazy dater. By lazy, I mean I don’t put in the real effort required to make online dating work. As a single mom, I should cut myself some slack. I have a lot of other things on my plate and to be completely honest, I love how my life is going as of now. I love my friends, kid, work, and social life — OK, so some weekend nights, I’m stumped on whom to go out with if I am kid-free — so why complicate it with a man? Enough said.

But of course, the idea of romance and love still appeals to me. The idea of intense online dating? It does NOT appeal to me. The reality is if you want to succeed with online dating, you’ve got to go out with a plethora of frogs to meet any potential partner, and right now, I have taken a slight back seat to swiping left and right and mindlessly texting guys who I will probably never meet. When I get a match whom I am not crazy over, I decide to not meet him and, instead, go see friends.

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Give a Dad a Chance,

Laura

6 Reasons Single Moms (& Dads) Deserve Love the Second Time Around

As a single mom or dad, you are amazing.

The problem is you most likely don’t realize that, or if you do, you have grown so independent that perhaps you’ve grown to believe that love might never walk down your street.

Society likes to shame moms who have had divorces. Article after article I’ve written, I will always find one person who likes to comment, accusing me falsely of walking out of my marriage, even though that wasn’t the case and even though we went through many rounds of counseling together.

Society likes to make comments about moms — or more likely the state the moms are in — after a father abandons or drops out of the child’s life.

There are so many myths about single parenthood in general, but sometimes, when you’ve grown tired of doing things on your own, it’s hard to not feel down and wonder:

“When will I find love again?”

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You Deserve It!

Laura

Why Having Sex Is More Important Than Dieting in 2016

Most people will resolve to eat better, exercise, and stay health conscious for 2016. It’s pretty much the same spiel each year. Most of us know that going to McDonald’s for a Big Mac is not a great choice for our bodies and that we would be better off eating veggies and lean proteins, so there’s no need to beat a dead horse.

What most people don’t think about though is how important it is to have more sex with their partners. Why? Well, some people get all red in the face when you start a conversation with them about sex. Some people may think that if someone is open to sexual conversation, perhaps that woman or man is “loose,” but in my opinion, those people are missing out. Then again, I’m the girl who wrote two songs about ovarian and sperm function (proper words were used in all verses — no potty words!) for her middle school sex education teacher, fondly known as “Banana Boobs” by the kids.

I am so sorry Banana Boobs for calling you that behind your back.

You don’t have to be one inch kinky and could even prefer sex in the missionary position each time, and having more sex would still be crucial for you and your relationship in 2016. Here’s why:

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Just DO it,

Laura

6 Things Women in Their 30s Want Lovely 20-Somethings to Know

As I round out the end of my 30s and all of its unique glories, challenges, and triumphs, it dawns on me that so every often I feel like I am 25 still. It’s as if I forget my own age. But there is one thing that makes me uniquely different from 25, and it’s not just my biological age, but all the wisdom and the self-esteem that started from life lessons in my 20s and headed into all the glory and heartache of my 30s. I am a very social person, and so I find myself often out people watching, and I see all you lovely, beautiful, sweet, and unsure 20-somethings and I want to grab a chair and pull you over so I can share to you what I know in hopes that it will help you as you venture into adult female life!

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With Love,

Laura

6 Stages a Woman Goes Through When Enduring the Worst Sex of Her Life

You know how some people say there is no such thing as bad pizza — bad chocolate — bad sex?

Guess what? They were wrong! There is such a thing as bad sex and enduring it — well, enduring it requires the patience of a saint and the desire to avoid smacking the crap out of your bedmate. Here are the six stages every woman goes through while she’s dealing with a round of horrifically awful sex:

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Just Netflix Next Time, Dude,

Laura