Someone Who Really Cares Wants The Commitment & Wants You

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If there’s anything I’ve learned in my life it’s that people who care about you want you and want the commitment. They want the time with you. They want to work to make the relationship happen. They want you and will do their best to make you happy. They want the relationship to succeed and that means, making sacrifices and working to be the best individual and partner they can be.

Someone who doesn’t commit, doesn’t care.
Someone who is selfish or distant, doesn’t care.
Someone who isn’t consistent and isn’t available, doesn’t care.
He or she may like you as a friend. He or she may like you for just sex. He or she may think you’re a good person.
BUT— if he or she doesn’t commit, that person doesn’t want you and doesn’t care.

Commitment shows someone values you. Make no mistake about it.

Tale As Old As Time,

Laura

3 Key Differences Between Men Who Take You Seriously & Men Who Treat You as an Option

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You meet a guy and he seems fabulous… but a bit flaky at times. Does he care about you? Does he find you valuable or just someone to toy with?

Are you meaningful to him and special? Or just a notch on the ol’ belt?

Are you his Plan A or his “optional package?”

There is nothing worse than being a guy’s optional package. It can kill your self-esteem and confidence.

Here are 3 key differences between men who are seriously into you … and men who see you as an option for him to choose when he feels like it:

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There Is Without a Doubt, Someone Out There For You– Dying to Be With You

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It seems impossible. There can’t possibly be someone out there.

You have been on every dating site. You have gone to dating events, bars, concerts, friend set-ups, community gatherings and are pretty sure you have met everyone on the planet.

And you like none of them. They all stink.

But for those who look closely and pay attention to the details, there will always be one.

One person who shows up when you least expect it.

One person who says yes. One person who doesn’t make you jump hoops to be with him/her.

One person who shows up, has something to offer and is willing to stick it out with you, no matter what. One person who likes you for your flaws and imperfections.

It may seem impossible but really anything is possible.

There are billions of people on this planet. What makes you think you’re so awful that there is no one created for you?

That is a lie.

Someone will show up. Someone good. Sift through the weeds. Pay attention to the red flags.

And amongst all the noise of bad online dates, weird people, flaky people and missed connections, someone will show up.

God Speed,

Laura

How to Handle Being Single at The Holidays

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Single at the holidays? It can make you feel that truly, baby– it’s damn cold outside! Not to mention those lonely mistletoes hanging around with no action to be seen. Of course, your bedroom isn’t seeing much action either, eh?

I think too many people put pressure to have love at the holidays. Not that I can blame them. Kissing at midnight when the ball drops? Champagne and bubble baths? Getting some warmth on these frigid December nights? It all sounds incredibly appealing …

So, what do you do then if you’re single? If you enjoy your single days– well then, yay! Simply bask in the joy of not having to buy someone else a gift. Or dealing with someone’s family.

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6 Ways to Tell If Your Partner Thinks You’re Replaceable

Have you ever felt like your partner– male or female, gay or straight or otherwise– would be ok replacing you at any minute?

Have you ever felt like you weren’t significant to this person or perhaps, like he or she always has eyes open for other candidates?

It’s not a great feeling.

I’ve heard many friends and loved ones tell me how they feel as if their partner wasn’t really committed all the way. In some cases, it was paranoia. In other cases, their partner wasn’t really committed.

Here are 6 ways to tell if your partner thinks you’re replaceable … or not.

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8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

It’s always a party when someone gets engaged or married. Wahoo! It’s the best. Couple’s life…right?

Not always. Not everyone was born to be married to the same person for the rest of his or her life, and that’s ok. In fact, there are many unhappily married people out there. Enough to make you wonder how viable the institution is in the first place. Of course—there’s nothing wrong with marriage…but there’s also nothing wrong with being single. It can be a happier and in fact, more liberating choice for so many damn reasons that no one should be surprised to meet someone over 30 who decided not to “tie the knot.”

Being single is sexy and a lot of times, it’s sexier.

Here’s why:

1) They Don’t Let Themselves Go

I’m sorry but way too many married people take their coupledom as an excuse to let themselves go. There’s nothing wrong with a doughnut or three, but disregarding your health and letting your body go isn’t good for anyone long-term, single or married.

Read More: 8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy

One is the Hottest Number,

Laura

How to Survive the Holidays Alone

The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, but they can also feel like the most gosh darn awful time of the year when you’re alone.

It’s not that you need a partner to “jingle all the way,” light a menorah, or watch the ball drop, but the holidays symbolize love, togetherness, and an exchange of affections for all who we love, from family to romantic partners. And hey, let’s not forget those tantalizing Victoria’s Secret ads we ladies see each holiday season with a whole lingerie line full of whimsical, lacy nothings guaranteed to impress our hot, hunky . . .

Nobodies. We’ve got nobody.

Suddenly, you can really feel like you just got a whole bunch of coal in your fishnet stockings . . .

But instead of hanging your head and doing the weeping woman sob of shame, buck up, buttercup! The holidays can be pretty amazing alone, too. After all, there’s no tag line that states you must be a part of duo in order to enjoy the most wonderful time of the year.

Survive the holidays this year alone by not surviving, but thriving.

Read More: How to Survive the Holidays Alone

Alone, Not Lonely,

Laura

Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.

Read More: Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

As One & Happy,

Laura

9 Brutal Truths About Dating In Your Late Thirties

There you are, ready for love in your late thirties, yet you’re either entering the dating world after a big breakup/divorce or you’re the last of your friends to be married off. It can be discouraging, and everyone tells you, “Oh, you’re still so young. You’ll find love!” But it seems like you’d have a better shot at winning the lottery than finding the right match.

Don’t give up, though. Giving up is for quitters and you aren’t a quitter. Love is out there for everyone at any age, whether you’re fifteen or eighty-five. But here are some harsh realities of dating in your late thirties that you need to know, if you don’t already.

  1. You feel like a time bomb if you don’t have kids already.

If you want kids and still have none, you feel like your ovaries are ready to explode. They’re not, but each date seems heavier than the last. Is this the one? you find yourself thinking. It’s hard to not feel the pull of biology and hormones.

Read More: 9 Brutal Truths About Dating In Your Late Thirties

Can You Handle the Truth,

Laura

6 Stages a Woman Goes Through When Enduring the Worst Sex of Her Life

You know how some people say there is no such thing as bad pizza — bad chocolate — bad sex?

Guess what? They were wrong! There is such a thing as bad sex and enduring it — well, enduring it requires the patience of a saint and the desire to avoid smacking the crap out of your bedmate. Here are the six stages every woman goes through while she’s dealing with a round of horrifically awful sex:

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Just Netflix Next Time, Dude,

Laura