In divorce, sex, Single Life on February 16, 2017 at 2:12 am
It’s always a party when someone gets engaged or married. Wahoo! It’s the best. Couple’s life…right?
Not always. Not everyone was born to be married to the same person for the rest of his or her life, and that’s ok. In fact, there are many unhappily married people out there. Enough to make you wonder how viable the institution is in the first place. Of course—there’s nothing wrong with marriage…but there’s also nothing wrong with being single. It can be a happier and in fact, more liberating choice for so many damn reasons that no one should be surprised to meet someone over 30 who decided not to “tie the knot.”
Being single is sexy and a lot of times, it’s sexier.
1) They Don’t Let Themselves Go
I’m sorry but way too many married people take their coupledom as an excuse to let themselves go. There’s nothing wrong with a doughnut or three, but disregarding your health and letting your body go isn’t good for anyone long-term, single or married.
Read More: 8 Reasons Why Being Single is Sexy
One is the Hottest Number,
In Single Life on December 12, 2016 at 3:24 am
The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, but they can also feel like the most gosh darn awful time of the year when you’re alone.
It’s not that you need a partner to “jingle all the way,” light a menorah, or watch the ball drop, but the holidays symbolize love, togetherness, and an exchange of affections for all who we love, from family to romantic partners. And hey, let’s not forget those tantalizing Victoria’s Secret ads we ladies see each holiday season with a whole lingerie line full of whimsical, lacy nothings guaranteed to impress our hot, hunky . . .
Nobodies. We’ve got nobody.
Suddenly, you can really feel like you just got a whole bunch of coal in your fishnet stockings . . .
But instead of hanging your head and doing the weeping woman sob of shame, buck up, buttercup! The holidays can be pretty amazing alone, too. After all, there’s no tag line that states you must be a part of duo in order to enjoy the most wonderful time of the year.
Survive the holidays this year alone by not surviving, but thriving.
Read More: How to Survive the Holidays Alone
Alone, Not Lonely,
In dating, divorce, relationships, romance, Single Life on February 3, 2016 at 4:23 pm
Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.
Read More: Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!
As One & Happy,
In dating, dating advice, divorce, love, relationships, Single Life on January 12, 2016 at 7:04 pm
There you are, ready for love in your late thirties, yet you’re either entering the dating world after a big breakup/divorce or you’re the last of your friends to be married off. It can be discouraging, and everyone tells you, “Oh, you’re still so young. You’ll find love!” But it seems like you’d have a better shot at winning the lottery than finding the right match.
Don’t give up, though. Giving up is for quitters and you aren’t a quitter. Love is out there for everyone at any age, whether you’re fifteen or eighty-five. But here are some harsh realities of dating in your late thirties that you need to know, if you don’t already.
- You feel like a time bomb if you don’t have kids already.
If you want kids and still have none, you feel like your ovaries are ready to explode. They’re not, but each date seems heavier than the last. Is this the one? you find yourself thinking. It’s hard to not feel the pull of biology and hormones.
Read More: 9 Brutal Truths About Dating In Your Late Thirties
Can You Handle the Truth,
In dating, humor, life, marriage, relationships, sex, Single Life on December 11, 2015 at 6:33 pm
You know how some people say there is no such thing as bad pizza — bad chocolate — bad sex?
Guess what? They were wrong! There is such a thing as bad sex and enduring it — well, enduring it requires the patience of a saint and the desire to avoid smacking the crap out of your bedmate. Here are the six stages every woman goes through while she’s dealing with a round of horrifically awful sex:
Read More: 6 Stages a Woman Goes Through When Enduring the Worst Sex of Her Life
Just Netflix Next Time, Dude,
In dating, dating advice, Single Life, single mom on November 11, 2015 at 5:31 pm
For some reason, there is this new law that if a woman doesn’t respond to a man’s advances online, he gets to b*tch her out.
I thought it was just other lucky women who had to deal with it, and not me — but apparently, I am ripe for the insulting as well.
I have heard it all:
Hey princess– think you’re too good to respond?
Whatever b*tch, you’re probably not funny anyway (in reference to my comment about doing stand-up comedy)
Why do women think they’re too good to message back?
Read More: To the Guys Cursing Me Out for Not Messaging Them Back Online
Control Your Anger Dudes,
In divorce, divorce advice, Single Life, single mom, single parent life on July 8, 2015 at 7:49 pm
This is the thought that goes through my head sometimes, fifteen months after separating from my ex-husband (our divorce is still not official).
“Am I brave for moving forward with him, with the divorce? Or am I insane?”
Originally when we separated, a year or more seemed so far away. I thought for sure I would feel better — for good. I didn’t predict how tough it would be. I didn’t predict how sharing our child would still, fifteen months later, suck. Yes, suck. Splitting our daughter’s time in half has been tremendously difficult. When she is gone, it’s like I’m in the black & white scenes from the “Wizard of Oz”: twisters, an evil neighbor, and the dreariness of a flat Kansas plain about to erupt in a storm. All the color goes out of my life to some extent, and the house is eerily quiet.
Read More: Is It Brave or Insane to Choose to Divorce?
In dating, dating advice, divorce, Single Life, single mom on June 25, 2015 at 8:39 pm
It’s not easy being a single parent whether you’re a single parent from the get-go, from divorce, due to the death of your partner, or for any reason really. And if you want to become “unsingle” and partner up with someone, you find right away that dating is a thousand times more difficult than it was before you had your child.
When people ask if I am dating, I laugh. I admit I knew it would be hard, but I had no idea how truly difficult it would be until I was actually “attempting” to date. So many single moms out there would love to meet a man they can trust and include in their lives as well as their children’s, but it’s something that takes time. You just cannot have the wrong person intermingling in your children’s lives at any cost. Too often, people rush to get into a relationship right after a divorce or breakup with the hopes of giving their children a nuclear family again and because it can be scary to be alone.
Read More: Why Single Moms Should Have a Summer Fling
Where’s My Cabana Boy,
In dating, dating advice, divorce, relationships, Single Life, single mom, single parent life on February 23, 2015 at 5:58 pm
While it may be a happy and joyous thing that you are single after a break-up or divorce, if you’re dying to date but still ending up home alone on Friday nights, there may be a few reasons this is happening.
Read my latest, 7 Reasons You Are Single and Your Other Single Mom Friends Aren’t!
Home Alone & It’s Not All That Bad!
In divorce, motherhood, Single Life, single mom, single parent life on February 23, 2015 at 12:39 am
It has been almost a year since my ex-husband and I separated from each other. And there are many things I have gotten used to…and some I have not.
I have gotten used to sleeping in an empty bed. Doing laundry without doing his. (obviously). Taking out the trash. Walking the dog. I have gotten used to coming up late-ish at night and finding there is no one there to care that I am driving back safely.
And while there are a good many things I have not quite adjusted to, there is one I most particularly am struggling with:
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