Whoopi Goldberg and the ladies on The View discussed my article, “What Does Your Panty Style Say About Your Personality on TV!”
Read the article here.
Thong or Bikini Briefs?
Holding onto anger about anything — a situation, trauma, person or lost circumstance, whatever the case may be — isn’t a punishment to anyone but you. Your wrath will never burn literal holes into any of your enemies (no matter how hard you try); rather, your wrath will burn every single last bit of energy you have.
Your anger will kill off the good parts of you until all that’s left is a negative, seething shell of slavery. Yes that’s right. When you hold onto that kind of anger, you ‘re enslaved.
So when I hopped onto Facebook and saw that my former date rapist who was supposed to be “my friend” was suggested as a “person you may know,” I felt nothing.
There’s No More Anger,
The big 4-0. It will come before you know it. So in the meantime, you need to live your thirties to the fullest. The thirties are so fabulous because you’re settled in who you are, and in many cases, settled in a career. You’re not a newbie or a “youngin” anymore, but you’re still vivacious enough to take risks, go out for a night of fun, and your sexy age makes you adored by young and old.
The fact is your confidence is sexier than your wrinkle-free, 20-year-old face and you know it. Your friendships are established, and while you’re still interested in exploring yourself and the world, you know where you’re headed or where you want to go. So before you clock in at 4-0, if you’re a smart woman, do these 15 things.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise.
You’ve worked hard, so why not? After being in your field or at a certain position for a while, you’ve paid your dues. Ask for the raise and get the salary you want now so it pays off later when you ask for another raise or move to another job with better pay.
Just Do It!
An independent woman sounds oh-so-sexy, but why then are so many people afraid of an independent woman?
There are many reasons and most of them are never directly stated; instead, they’re implied and internalized. As one of those “independent” women, I often feel that, for men, perhaps it’s not that I’m not “enough” for them, but that I’m too much.
Other than car repairs and fixing things, I take care of everything. Yes, I’m one of those women who knows when she needs to ask either a man or woman for help, and that’s when it involves repairs.
So if you’re an independent woman who can’t meet the right guy, or has a tough time with friendships or colleagues — or are a man who’s in love with an independent woman — read on!
While I’m not a dictator or as bossy as the quintessential boss Lucy from Peanuts, I like being in charge. Hell, let me rephrase that: I LOVE IT! This isn’t to say that I won’t let someone else lead; in fact, I have dealt with more assertive people than myself, both male and female, and let them lead the way because I either was buying what they were selling, so to speak, or could see they were more of a Top Dog than myself, or at the very least listened to what they had to say. But there is a great satisfaction in leading a cause or effort and getting things accomplished for me. There’s nothing like checking off a task accomplished to bring me that warm and fuzzy content feeling.
As of late, I found myself working with a male who by nature and culture is more direct than I am and enjoys leading. We butt heads once and after that, it was easy and a pleasure to work with him. It is nice to find someone who enjoys taking the lead and working with me to finish a job.
Read More: 3 Myths About Bossy Women
Small and in Charge,
I hear myself saying “Oh, that looks very pretty” or “I love what you’re wearing” or “You’re very pretty” when I meet or see a little girl I know. It’s a knee-jerk response conditioned from years of growing up around five women and one man (my dad) who worked in the garment business and knows how to speak to women. One of the first things almost everyone does when they meet a woman is compliment her appearance.
Pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty.
You look great. Fabulous. Did you lose weight? I love your shoes. Where did you get that dress? I really like your mascara.
She’s such a pretty girl. What a beautiful girl you are!
Tell Her She’s Strong,
I am so fortunate to be at a job in which both the men and women respect each other. I can’t express how glad I am to be blessed with this opportunity, but what makes me sad is that this respectful work environment is a rarity in my experience. The joy I feel in being a regular person in my full-time job and not a trophy employee for some disgustingly inappropriate male boss, shouldn’t be uncommon — it should be the standard. But unfortunately, being a “body” instead of a worker has been a common instance for me in my employed life.
Read More: How to Get Winked at and Harassed at Work
Not A Barbie Doll,
When Mother’s Day comes around, we often think about how our mothers helped to form how we “mother” our own children. We reflect on what it was that made Mom so special or perhaps what it was that we wished our moms could have done for us that they didn’t. I’ve written before and thought very often about what I would adapt from my mother’s parenting and what I wouldn’t, but what I hadn’t taken inventory of until now was how my mother shaped my internal view on what it means to be a woman. Very often, we think of ourselves as workers, spouses, sisters, children, and mothers, but do we stop to think about what it means to us to be a woman?
Read More: What My Mom Taught Me About Being a Woman
I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar…Meow?
Usually men want to have sex.
Depends on the lady, and it can be complicated.
Here’s a simple guide to follow when trying to decide if a woman wants to have sex with you…or not.
Women are mysterious and complicated.
Some people say we are crazy, but I just think you’ve been reading your Women manual incorrectly. There are quite a few illiterate people out there, so this is entirely possible. Or perhaps, your manual is written in the incorrect language.
Let me give you a few simple pointers that even a dog could correctly adhere to.
Oh wait, dogs can’t read.
You get the drift. Read the rest of this entry »