In divorce, single mom, women's issues, work on March 21, 2017 at 1:12 am
When I decided to get a divorce, I was terrified. I was financially dependent and desperately trying to grow my income. Three years later, with a lot of hard work and sweat…I am doing it, thanks to the help of an amazing organization called Savvy Ladies.
Please watch this video and share. It could help a woman who is struggling in silence.
Watch the interview here.
In motherhood, parenthood, women's issues on September 15, 2016 at 9:00 pm
The other day my daughter came home from camp right before school started. She’s 5 years old and just started kindergarten. The last thing I expected was for her to start talking about the presidential candidates; however, there were older kids in camp and so perhaps I shouldn’t have been so surprised.
“The kids were chanting, “We hate Trump! We hate Trump!'” she reenacted.
I stopped for a second and collected myself to ask her if she knew who Donald Trump was.
“Of course,” she said, “He’s the guy with the blond white hair.”
So in my 5-year-old’s mind, she knows who Trump is. She didn’t say why these kids “hated” Trump, but my guess was that the kids were hearing this from their parents. After all, our parents are the first people to pass down values to us on everything from religion to politics.
I explained to her that he, along with Hillary Clinton, are our presidential candidates running to become our very next president. I did this in the simplest of language, of course.
Then she told me with a distraught face, “Some of the kids say a girl can’t be president. They say the girl shouldn’t be president.”
Read More: What It Means When Your Kids Say a Girl Can’t Be President
In career, motherhood, women's issues on May 27, 2016 at 4:17 pm
As a working mom, your childless co-workers may or may not have thought this about you as a working parent and co-worker.
It’s not that your childless co-workers aren’t awesome — they are! — or that they don’t like kids (they may or they may not!) but that from time to time, they think you get perks that are unfair thanks to your status as a mom.
1. How Come She Gets Flex Time?
I am of the school of thought that companies should offer flex hours, whether you’re a parent or not. I understand that not everyone may deserve that privilege, but if employees are stuck to their desks and jobs 24/7, eventually, they will quit. Burnout is not pretty, and if you are a working parent, you know how hard that work-life balance is. Everyone needs it.
Read More: 4 Things Your Childless Co-Workers Think About You as a Working Mom
In trauma recovery, woman, women's issues on April 24, 2016 at 4:34 pm
Holding onto anger about anything — a situation, trauma, person or lost circumstance, whatever the case may be — isn’t a punishment to anyone but you. Your wrath will never burn literal holes into any of your enemies (no matter how hard you try); rather, your wrath will burn every single last bit of energy you have.
Your anger will kill off the good parts of you until all that’s left is a negative, seething shell of slavery. Yes that’s right. When you hold onto that kind of anger, you ‘re enslaved.
So when I hopped onto Facebook and saw that my former date rapist who was supposed to be “my friend” was suggested as a “person you may know,” I felt nothing.
Read More: No, I Do Not Need To ‘Forgive’ My Date Rapist, ThankYouVeryMuch
There’s No More Anger,
In life, love, mental health, women's issues on April 15, 2016 at 7:52 pm
We hate to break it to you, BUT…
We all have heartaches, down periods, tribulations and stressors in our life. When you take a mental photograph of your whole life from birth to today, chances are you’re going to have some serious grey and black splotches.
But overall, you wake up each day and do what you have to do. You’ve got it together. Unless of course, you’re a hot freaking mess!
No doubt, if you’re a catastrophic mess, people know it. The bad news is most likely, people are judging you or being empathetic toward you. The good news is every one becomes a mess now and then. But when your life has a constant orange roadblock sign in it and every one, including yourself, decides that your life is a big pile of sh*t, that’s where the problems arise.
Here are 13 signs your life is a hot mess.
Read More: Get It Together, Girl: 13 Signs Your Life Is A Hot Freaking MESS
Pull it Together Now,
In girl empowerment, motherhood, parenthood, women's issues on March 22, 2016 at 3:57 pm
My daughter is turning 5. She is not at the age when I can remotely have discussions about such insane acts of abuse and violation like rape. And really, how do I ever sit down and talk to her about the things that real-life monsters do? How do we ever explain these real-life monsters to our children? Many of us don’t have to until we come face to face with one of these true-life villains.
As parents, we don’t come equipped with an employee handbook; there are no clear-cut rules to raising kids besides the golden rules. I can’t “power up” my daughter to avoid every single possible instance of sexual crime, hate crime, general crime, and then some. But I can teach her a few things to help guide her to not only protect herself as best as she can but to also value herself so she aligns herself with positive people and not “dogs who have the fleas.”
Read More: I Survived Rape: Here’s What I Want My Daughter to Know
In fitness & wellness, women's issues on March 21, 2016 at 8:08 pm
You’re a great person. Trouble is, you don’t realize it. You’re too busy undermining your own worth that you’re not questioning how others treat you. In your eyes, people treat you badly because a) you think you deserve it, or b) you think you keep having “bad luck.”
The reality is, you’ve got no self-respect and therefore, you keep attracting some pretty undesirable people in your life. Here are seven signs you’ve got no self-respect and it’s seriously hurting your life.
- You’re the “doormat friend.”
If you’re always the one that people ask things for without giving back anything in return, you’re what they call a “doormat.” Do people get away with murder when it comes to you? Are you frequently left picking up other people’s messes? Do people just expect that “you’ll do it”?
If you answered yes, you’ve got no self-respect and are letting people walk all over you.
Read More: 7 Signs You Literally Have ZERO Respect For Yourself, Girl
It’s the Truth,
In woman, women's issues on March 17, 2016 at 3:14 pm
The big 4-0. It will come before you know it. So in the meantime, you need to live your thirties to the fullest. The thirties are so fabulous because you’re settled in who you are, and in many cases, settled in a career. You’re not a newbie or a “youngin” anymore, but you’re still vivacious enough to take risks, go out for a night of fun, and your sexy age makes you adored by young and old.
The fact is your confidence is sexier than your wrinkle-free, 20-year-old face and you know it. Your friendships are established, and while you’re still interested in exploring yourself and the world, you know where you’re headed or where you want to go. So before you clock in at 4-0, if you’re a smart woman, do these 15 things.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise.
You’ve worked hard, so why not? After being in your field or at a certain position for a while, you’ve paid your dues. Ask for the raise and get the salary you want now so it pays off later when you ask for another raise or move to another job with better pay.
Read More: 15 Things Every Smart Woman Should Do Before She Turns The Big 4-0
Just Do It!
In relationships, woman, women's issues on March 17, 2016 at 3:11 pm
An independent woman sounds oh-so-sexy, but why then are so many people afraid of an independent woman?
There are many reasons and most of them are never directly stated; instead, they’re implied and internalized. As one of those “independent” women, I often feel that, for men, perhaps it’s not that I’m not “enough” for them, but that I’m too much.
Other than car repairs and fixing things, I take care of everything. Yes, I’m one of those women who knows when she needs to ask either a man or woman for help, and that’s when it involves repairs.
So if you’re an independent woman who can’t meet the right guy, or has a tough time with friendships or colleagues — or are a man who’s in love with an independent woman — read on!
Read More: 7 Reasons Everyone’s *Slightly* Afraid Of An Independent Woman
In marriage, marriage advice, motherhood, relationships, sex, women's issues on March 14, 2016 at 8:10 pm
Movie after television sitcom after insert another media outlet portrays mothers as cold fish: “I have a headache and don’t want sex tonight,” ad nausem. Somehow, mothers (women) are always too tired, have a headache, shut their partners out, or just don’t want sex. All of this is bollocks. This isn’t to say that a mom won’t “shut down” a partner for a variety of reasons, especially in the few months or first year of an infant’s life, but that the cold frigid wife stereotype needs to go for a variety of reasons.
1. We Aren’t Here to Be On-Demand Sex Toys
Portraying women as unavailable and frigid sexual partners sort of assumes that we are supposed to be available for sex any time our partners want it. Sorry, but that’s not the case. Sometimes, a partner doesn’t deserve a round of “bedroom hockey.”
Read More: 7 Reasons the Cold Wife Stereotype Is Bad For Our Sex Lives
Watch What You Say (& Think),