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My Interview For Fox News on Financial Education for Women

In divorce, single mom, women's issues, work on March 21, 2017 at 1:12 am

When I decided to get a divorce, I was terrified. I was financially dependent and desperately trying to grow my income. Three years later, with a lot of hard work and sweat…I am doing it, thanks to the help of an amazing organization called Savvy Ladies.

Please watch this video and share. It could help a woman who is struggling in silence.

Watch the interview here.

With Hope,

Laura

The Essential Guide to Having a Work Husband or Boyfriend

In relationships, work on February 19, 2016 at 3:31 pm

He knows you like your coffee black with three sugars. He knows you have a serious addiction to Ryan Reynolds and that you and your best friend talk every day on your way home from work. He tells you when you’re having a great hair day.

“He” is otherwise known as your work boyfriend, aka the work hubby!

You can’t imagine clocking in or out without seeing your favorite co-worker, the work hubby, and he’s frequently there to join you at lunch break, talking away as if you two have known each other for life. But is your relationship with the work hubby appropriate, especially if you’re involved with a man (married or dating)? Let’s discuss the right and the wrong way to have a work boyfriend or husband.

Desk Chatting Ends at 5 p.m.

A work husband should stay your work husband: at work.

It’s OK if you feel like chatting here and there with your WH on Facebook or what have you, but the constant communication should come to a halt after 5 p.m.

Read More: The Essential Guide to Having a Work Husband or Boyfriend

Behave,

Laura

Why I Love Working and I Don’t Feel Bad About It

In motherhood, single mom, work, working mom life on February 16, 2016 at 6:20 pm

Let’s be real for a few minutes, shall we?

I am a divorced single mom. Not working is not an option. Work is survival. I am the head of my household, and that’s not likely to change anytime soon. When I was at home with my daughter, I built a lifetime of memories into two and a half short years, and if I could do it over again, I would. I miss all that quality time I had with my girl. I miss not running around like a mad woman. I miss having time to schedule things rather than cramming every moment in. I miss feeling like I could slow down for one second without worrying about when life was going to bulldoze me over.

But those days are long gone. And you know what? My single parenthood. My divorce. My hectic, crazy life does not mean I go on day to day, surviving. I thrive. And even more still, I actually enjoy working. I enjoy knowing that, at the end of the day, no man or other human being is responsible for me and my daughter’s care. That, ultimately, the fruit of my labors bring us care, shelter, food, and more. That my efforts are building a young girl’s world and substantiating mine!

Read More: Why I Love Working and I Don’t Feel Bad About It

Sisters Are Happily Doing it For Themselves,

Laura

You Can Beat Depression: Happy Hour #6

In Happy Hour, life, work on July 8, 2014 at 5:50 pm

I know that many people require medication to deal with chemical imbalances and sometimes therapy–both together is best in my opinion, but what do I know. Anywhoo, sometimes though, you yourself can snap yourself out of a dismal moment or day simply by how you think and the things you say to yourself and others. Cognitive-behavioral therapists would agree with me. Personally I prefer analysis to CBT, but I digress.

Today, I am wrapping up my book that I authored, and so it’s on to new jobs/s. I was applying for things and I felt myself cringe inside…and heard my little high-pitched voice inside my head say, “Nothing seems right here. I’m never going to find the right fit. Why bother?”

And that’s when I used my big girl voice and said, “Stop it. Stop it right now. You’ve found work throughout the whole year even though things didn’t pan out as planned. You’ve done so much good work too this year. Stuff to be happy about. Don’t get down.”

And that was it.

My bad mood floated away. It’s not always that easy to get out of a funk when things are not going your way, but sometimes it really is that damn easy.

For more happy-moments, sexiness, humor, and self-deprecation, follow me.

If You’re Happy and You Know It…

Laura

Goldilocks is hungry and wants to break your chair: Coming out of the closet

In humor, life, mental health, motherhood, work on January 13, 2014 at 10:49 pm

This isn’t a claim of my lesbianism, although I love the lesbians of course and people of all sexual persuasions, but this is my admission: I am depressed.

Goldilocks is tired of ransacking people’s (bears) homes by herself and causing general chaos, only to have to run in another direction once a Grizzly comes to eat her. Read the rest of this entry »

You Can’t Have it All: Why Women Feel Like They’re Failing

In life, motherhood, Uncategorized, woman, work on November 4, 2013 at 2:36 am

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When I was growing up, I heard that women could have it all.

We could have careers, raise children, and make a good living, maybe even better than the men in our lives.

Damn, it sounded peachy. It sounded easy.

I always imagined myself working and as a success.

I never pictured myself as a timid wallflower, and so far that has been more than true, but for the first time in my life I am realizing that the old 70’s-80’s feminism lied to me.

I can’t have it all.

And while many of you probably feel like you’re a success and probably are, I happen to think that a bunch of you probably feel like you are failing to some degree or another, in managing that career and kids our generation said we’d have no problem managing.

I commute a long distance from my job. I’m working on changing that, but I end up clocking in a 64 hour work week.

I love my job, but I never see my kid.

I don’t mean that my time with her is cut down. I mean I don’t know what she will be eating for lunch most of the time.

I mean I am gone so much that I never eat a single meal with her all week, until Saturday.

I mean, I don’t drop her off at her grandparents or school. Or pick her up.

I mean, I get to put her to bed 3 weeknights a week, sometimes 4.

I make use of the time I have with her on the weekend, and the few nights a week I get to bathe her and put her to bed, but do I have it all?

Hell no.

This is not the image of a balanced life I was sold as a kid.

I feel like I am not a mother, but merely a walk-on who gets to play mother on the weekends.

And of course, when I have to leave early because my kid is sick or I take off to attend a school function, I shove in my work within a short time frame, and leave early, watching others working hard, feeling guilty that I am not clocking in the exact same hours that they are.

Do I have it all?

No.

I can’t have it all. I can’t always be at the office, and I can’t always be home.

I work hard and parent well, but inside I am feeling like a failure.

When I get to work, I am in the zone, enjoying what I do, but when I got a call the other day that my kid was sick and I couldn’t get her until hours later because I live far from my job, the bus schedules blow, and traffic was terrible, I got home feeling like crap.

I couldn’t stay the full day at work. I couldn’t be there for my kid.

How am I doing a good job at all, as a parent, I wonder?

Even if you’re just dropping off and picking up your kid, you’re clocking in parenting time. You’re part of the daily routine.

I went from being in charge of my kid’s day and mostly at home, to becoming a mom-spector. Do I exist? Do I matter anymore?

You’ll tell me I do, but I don’t believe I do.

Am I saying you shouldn’t have a career? Absolutely not.

Go out and get one. Do it! I love what I do…

But find a life balance.

Make sure you’re with someone who sees things as you do, and then both of your prepare a plan for when you have kids how duties will be shared, especially finances. If you can, save ahead of time so you can go down to part-time work, or telecommute if you are able. If you want to work full-time, that’s great, but be sure that your situation will enable you to stay in the picture. Trust me.

My kid is 2.5. Her moments mean more than a paycheck.

We can’t have it all. We cannot be perfect. We will have to leave early. We will have to miss out on moments with our kids that will hurt. We will feel hopeless at times, and even feel as if we are doing nothing right.

But most importantly, at least we know the truth: we cannot have it all, but we can have what we need, and that’s what matters. Figuring out what you need will make you a happy working mom.

Mom at Work: The Disappearing Mother

In parenthood, work on September 19, 2013 at 1:18 am

Today is my birthday.

Do you know what my best present was?

I didn’t get many, but my best present was seeing my daughter.

My best present was putting her to bed. Bathing her.

Eating some cake with her.

See, I’m a working mom now with a long commute. So I feel as if I am slowly disappearing from her life.

I’ve never dropped her off at school. I’ve never picked her up.

I’ve met her teachers all but one, (there are 3) once.

She tells me stories of kids whose faces I don’t know.

She has a day that I know little about.

I know this is bound to be for every parent, but it is hard being Mom at work.

Being Mom far away at work.

Does my 2 year-old think I love her less?

Does she remember when we were home together?

Does she think of me when she is hurt at school or tired?

Do I register on her mind?

Am I doing the right thing?

Mom at work has to be everything: good employee, great mom, multitasker, and police.

Making sure everyone else who is taking care of her is doing his or her job since you can’t be there to do it yourself.

Hopefully one day my daughter will say, “My mom is a successful woman. And heck, she is a good mom too.”

Just wish it were easier.

For now, I will look forward to bathtime and bedtime, the weekends, and the five minutes I see her before I go off to work. Maybe it’s not the quantity, but truly the quality we spend with our kids that matters. I try to remind myself of that.

Be good to yourselves Mommies at Work.