4 Signs Your Love Interest or Partner Is Bored, Upset or Over You

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Have you ever wondered if you’re being sensitive or that your love interest or partner may be upset with you? Or worse, over you?

We all have our moments of paranoia and insecurity, but is your partner or love interest really done with you?

There’s no real definitive way to tell without asking the person, but here are some things that your love flame, interest or partner may do if he or she is upset with you or bored and done with you.

1.  Not Ask How You Are Doing– Less Inquisitive

If your love stops asking how you are or just doesn’t seem to ask you many questions about how you’re doing, what you’re up to and where you’re going, that’s a bad sign.

However, your partner or interest may not be upset with you or over you, but perhaps your love is:

Distracted?

Stressed over other things happening?

Having a busy day at work?

Keep these things in mind! It’s not always about you.

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How to Meet New Friends, Dates & Romantic Partners

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Looking to date? Want to make friends?

Meeting new people when you’re out of college and a full-grown adult can be challenging for many people, especially if you’re a parent. Dating is probably even harder than making friends at this stage, but both bring certain challenges.

I’m fortunate in that I have always been extroverted and quick to make friends– and for the most part, keep them. I feel lucky to have the friends that I do. But after moving to a new town a few years ago, I have definitely missed my old hometown peeps, but I’ve been making/or made other friends as well, all while sustaining old friendships.

Dating is a different ball of wax. Of course, there are a billion online avenues to take if you want to meet someone, but online isn’t the only or best way to go. It all depends on your own unique needs and wants.

So, if you’re looking to make new friends or get dates, try these suggestions:

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How to Increase the Heat & Attraction With Your Love Interest or Partner

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Without enough friction, there won’t be any sparks. And by friction, I mean good friction. When you rub two sticks together, you get a flame (hopefully). But without any action or friction, there won’t be a fire.

The same goes for your potential with another person (love interest or already committed partner).

You can never guarantee that someone will stay interested, invested and attracted to you without enough impetus to keep the fire going.

Here are good ways to fuel an attraction while also, bad things you shouldn’t do if you want to keep this person’s eyes on you.

1. Communicate Vs. Being Spotty

We all get busy. I don’t know one person on this planet who isn’t busy.

It’s okay if you can’t be in contact or have rough days. We all do. We can’t always be accessible!

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How to Make Your Partner’s Bad Day Better

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Is your love interest or partner/spouse having a bad day? How can you help, if at all?

You can do a lot to make your person’s day better. Of course, a lot depends on the person and his or her coping style, but here are some great ideas– steps to take, when your loved one has had a rough day.

For me, a York Peppermint Patty or Godiva doesn’t hurt. Not to mention a massage!

However, everyone is different:

  • Lend an ear: Some people just need to talk out their bad day. Give your lover an ear or two …
  • Give some space: Some people need to be alone to grumble a bit, think or just be alone. Sometimes the act of giving space is a very kind one.

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What Your Love Interest Wants You to “Buy” This Holiday Season

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If you just met someone, have been with them for a while or care about someone and want to show them you actually care about them beyond the surface/physical … here are things you can “get” this love interest, and none of them are gifts. Although of course if you’d like to buy this person a gift, by all means do so! I’ll have some bonus tips on picking the right gift thrown in.

First, the biggest thing you can give this person is your Time.

Time to spend together, get to know each other and appreciate each other is the biggest gift of all.

But this time has to be well-spent.

Put away your phones! No surfing the internet while with this person.

Set aside your distractions.

Even if it’s just for two hours, two hours of quality time beats an afternoon where your love interest stares at his or her phone all day.

The second biggest thing you can give this person is your Affection.

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A Single Mom’s Christmas (Er, Hanukkah too) List

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The other day my daughter said she was upset because Santa leaves her way more presents than he does for me.

I’m a single parent and also, single. Thankfully, she believes in Santa. Not thankfully, I can only buy so many “fake” presents for myself. I told her that I tell Santa to not bring gifts for me and instead, to leave for her. This seemed to placate her.

In truth, while I wouldn’t mind a pair of diamond earrings, some dance classes and new shoes and a nice coat, I don’t view gifts in the same light as I used to. Or the holidays.

I won’t lie that nice gifts are attractive, but they don’t mean the same thing to me anymore. It’s not a priority for me. When I envision the holidays, I consider the people I will be spending them with and the experiences I will have with them. I would rather have love than diamonds. Time with someone than a gift to unwrap.

Today, as I cleared off my car of the first ice and snow of the season, I was reminded of how great it would be if I had had someone to do it for me while I got my kid ready for school, instead of spending 20 minutes doing it on top of everything else.

And while that’s not the same as seeing the tree in NYC with your partner or sharing champagne on New Year’s, it’s truly just the snapshot of how wonderful having someone great can be. Having someone to be present for you and helpful, is better than a present.

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The 4 Keys to a Great Sexual Relationship: Frequency, Type & More

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If you want a great sexual relationship with someone, you’ve got to agree on 4 different things:

  • Frequency– how often you do it
  • Type–is it kinky always, sometimes or never? is it romantic sometimes, always or never?
  • Communication– do you want to discuss and push the envelope or share feelings, or do you like to keep it basic?
  • Intensity– do you want it deep and long or short all the time?

It’s not like you need to have an academic discussion with your partner on the matter, but generally, couples who are sexually healthy and happy have similar bedroom styles in terms of type of sex, frequency, intensity and how they communicate during, before and after sex. And in many –I’d say most couples, one or both parties is willing to compromise on perhaps the frequency or type now and then. This is what makes the relationship work out well.

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Really Good Men Exist– Here’s What to Look For

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“A good man is hard to find.”– Flannery O’Connor

If you’ve been searching, swiping, checking out or just in general, chatting up a lad and are curious of how he rates, well– time will certainly answer that question for you.

However, if you want to  know if you’ve met a man who is a good man at heart or one who needs to take a hike, read on:

1. He is thoughtful

Someone who makes the effort to get to know you and pay attention to the things you like is a good man.

2. He is protective– not controlling

Yes, you’re an independent woman but a good man wants to protect you because you matter to him. This is not the same as someone who is controlling. This is a man who cares and values you and wants you to be safe and happy.

3. He is warm and giving

He wants to make you smile and enjoys making you happy.

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5 Things People May Think When Recovering From Abuse

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When someone has gotten out of a traumatic situation, it’s very common to struggle with complex emotions and thoughts. More often than not, the abused will blame themselves for the abuser’s bad behavior, especially if the abuser was narcissistic.
1. Victims may retreat, lose/gain weight and feel depressed

It’s not unusual for victims of abuse to retreat from others out of shame, self-blame or desire to keep the abuse a secret.

Of course, it’s not the person’s fault and he or she shouldn’t be ashamed, but after being treated a certain way, it can be hard to not feel down about oneself.
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7 Traits ALL Good Partners Have in Relationships

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If you want to love someone, it doesn’t matter what gender or preference you are. Without these 7 traits, you can’t fully care about someone in a positive way.

Let’s dive in:

1. Honesty- Not Harshness

Being honest with each other makes for good communication but remember you don’t need to share every little last thought with the person.

Also– you’re not here to make someone perfect, so be kind with your words. Harshness will not build a relationship.

2. Available- Not Needy or a Doormat

Be available to the person you care about– emotionally and physically.

However, you are not a slave and you also deserve alone time and space. A healthy person will respect that.

Additionally, being too needy and in someone’s face is too much! It’s a balance.

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