There Is Without a Doubt, Someone Out There For You– Dying to Be With You

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It seems impossible. There can’t possibly be someone out there.

You have been on every dating site. You have gone to dating events, bars, concerts, friend set-ups, community gatherings and are pretty sure you have met everyone on the planet.

And you like none of them. They all stink.

But for those who look closely and pay attention to the details, there will always be one.

One person who shows up when you least expect it.

One person who says yes. One person who doesn’t make you jump hoops to be with him/her.

One person who shows up, has something to offer and is willing to stick it out with you, no matter what. One person who likes you for your flaws and imperfections.

It may seem impossible but really anything is possible.

There are billions of people on this planet. What makes you think you’re so awful that there is no one created for you?

That is a lie.

Someone will show up. Someone good. Sift through the weeds. Pay attention to the red flags.

And amongst all the noise of bad online dates, weird people, flaky people and missed connections, someone will show up.

God Speed,

Laura

One Day, The Person Who Didn’t Appreciate You Will Regret It

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We’ve all gone through this: dealt with one person who just didn’t appreciate all the time, energy and care we offered. Maybe it was a friend. Maybe a partner.

You put in the effort needed for a happy friendship or relationship, and the other person sort of took you for granted or, didn’t appreciate you … OR the person may have appreciated you silently but didn’t show it.

Whatever the case, after a while, you got tired of making all the effort just to get either little back in return or perhaps, nothing at all. Or maybe, you got back in return sometimes and sometimes not.

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The Power of New Love

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New love is amazing.

It’s the fulfillment that yes, good things do happen! It’s the hope that starts a new day. It’s the fire that starts under your butt when things are bad. Because even when things are bad, love carries us through.

Love has the power to heal the old wounds. To shush our fears and give us faith in things unseen and hoped for.

Love has the ability to make you work a little harder when really, you want to quit.

New love especially reminds you of all the times you cried, felt despair and pain.

New love says to those painful moments:  I saw you, I heard you and here I am to tell you that the bad times aren’t forever.

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What to Do When Someone Won’t Commit

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The other day, a friend was asking me for advice. He wanted to know what to do next.

Yup, male friends often turn to their female friends in these situations.

Someone he had been seeing and dating for a while had told him she didn’t want to further the relationship. They were really close and things were clicking … but then she said that while she really liked him, she wanted to be alone and stay away from committing or getting involved with him. He, heartbroken and looking to me for some solace, wants to be with her and told her he would be patient, but realized that there was nothing left he could do. He had tried so hard and was really great to her, but her position was firm: she wanted to be selfish at this point in her life, and as great as he is– it didn’t matter to her, sadly.  He knew the only thing he could do would be to move forward.

“What next?” he said.

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If You Can Remember The Day You Met Someone Happily– It’s a Gift

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In a world where attention spans are about 0.2 seconds long and everyone has an agenda, running into a stranger and sparking a connection is really rare.

What are the chances of you meeting someone at Target or the corner deli?

They’re low but still– possible.

Can you remember the day you met someone special still?

Do you recall every detail by heart? Do you remember how you felt when you saw that person’s face or heard that person’s voice for the first time?

If you answered yes–  that’s a gift.

It is so rare that we have these special moments and even more rare to find people that we have special connections with.

It’s a shame that so many of us take the people we love for granted. That so many people don’t appreciate all that we have.

If this is you (and it’s quite possible that it is) ask yourself the following things:

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Men Who Do These 6 Things Are Incredibly Sexy

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Every person has his or her own language of love, but there are certain things that men do that women find attractive and sexy. Is it a universal rule that every woman will find these things irresistible? No, but there are many women who would agree that these actions or character traits are incredibly appealing. Read on and see just how irresistible (or not) you might be!

Surprising her– Spontaneity

Okay, some women want the outfit planned and everything timed to a T, however, there is something irresistible and so attractive when a man plans a surprise for us. It feels so thoughtful, romantic and fun to be surprised, whether it’s with a dinner, a visit, a trip away, a present– anything!

Releasing her from a burden– Helpful

A man she cares about know she’s stressed and needs to relax, so if he steps in to help take a burden off her shoulders or give her some extra love– this is very appealing.

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Look For These Things When Dating Men in Their Forties

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If you’re dating and looking to meet a man in his forties, there are certain things to look for that you most likely didn’t consider when you were dating in your twenties.

At this stage of the game, your dating pool may be more shallow, but on a positive note, the man you should be looking for, will be wiser and hopefully, more self-aware than the guys you ran into when you were 20 or 30.

He’s Self-Aware & Works on Himself

He knows his flaws and doesn’t pretend he doesn’t have them. He owns who he is and also, he works to better himself. Sure, he will have baggage just as we all do, but he will try to make the baggage “lighter” and will always own which luggage is his– if you catch my drift.

He’s Willing to Work for You as He Knows He Stands to Gain

He’s not 20 and naive. He knows relationships take work. He knows that being with someone is a dance … sometimes you lead, sometimes your partner leads– and sometimes the pace is fast or slow.

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Is She Worthless to You or Worthwhile?

 

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Okay gentlemen and ladies– or anyone dating or caring for a woman– let’s be real:

Do you make her feel worthy or worthless?

Do you even know?

I had a friend whose partner was so abusive and controlling, she couldn’t see it. My mom and I tried to point it out, but it was impossible. She didn’t get it. Even with both of us pointing out the obvious, it went over her head.

Sure, he bought her gifts. Sure, he was “there” for her. But he was also, controlling and insulting.

Same with another friend. Her ex was stalking her when angry. He was “great” the rest of the time she said.

And hey, I had an ex who was nice and calm when he was nice, and then when he wasn’t, he would insult me and tell me I was only good because I was hot. That no one would want me for anything but my body.

So, were these men treating my friends or myself as worthy or worthless?

To me, worthless! It didn’t matter if they were nice sometimes. The fact was, they weren’t nice and kind all the time.

Here are signs you’re making her feel worthless– letting her flower wilt VS worthwhile– helping her bloom:

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Do You Want a Relationship Built on Sex or Intimacy?

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What does it mean to build a relationship towards intimacy versus what it means to build a relationship of sex?

It really depends on what you want. If you value the person and desire closeness, intimacy is the path you’d like to take.

If you just find the person attractive and don’t want to be close to them other than for carnal needs, sex is the path you’d like to take.

There are some easy key differences between these two paths, so let’s dive in and discuss them, as well as discuss which path is better.

While sex is intimate and part of intimacy, taking your relationship down the path of sex does not guarantee closeness. And while taking your relationship down the path of intimacy includes sex, it does includes closeness.

One path builds continuously and evolves, while the other path is limited and steady.

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What it Means to Really Appreciate a Friend, Family Member or Love

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Appreciate:( Transitive Verb) to grasp the nature, worth or significance of; to value or admire; to recognize with gratitude; to be fully aware of; to judge with heightened perception or understanding.

Do you feel as if your person or love really knows how significant you are? Do your family and friends recognize you with gratitude?

Are you valued and admired by the people you love, whether it’s your spouse, friend or brother?

As much as “to love” is an action verb, appreciation requires effort as well although the technical definition is rather intellectual.

It’s an act of kindness and love to really appreciate someone, because no one comes without flaws and bad days. No one comes with happiness and joy, 24/7. This means that to appreciate someone, you must truly embrace and “grasp” the nature of that person– the good, the bad and the moody.

When you don’t feel appreciated, it can be really difficult. Who doesn’t want to feel valued or recognized with gratitude?

Here are the differences between someone who appreciates you and someone who doesn’t:

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