Giving Up Things You Need & Love: Life As a Single Parent

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Sometimes we hit hard patches in life and we have to give up things we love. At the tail end of this year, I got hit with something that cost me financially a lot to handle– but I had to handle it. I couldn’t walk away or retreat from the matter and I ended up doing the right thing. But as a single parent, it was a financial hit I didn’t need as I already had endured enough the past six years. Not to mention the holidays– as much as I try to watch my funds and stick to a budget– it still costs– even with me being mindful.

So, after tallying up what I will need to pay for the next month or so, it hit me I may have to give up some things I love and some I even need in order to keep going, which really hurts. No one truly knows the financial sacrifices involved when you are a single parent– unless you are one as well.

My most favorite thing and really my one source of consistent artistic and physical joy, is dance.

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I Never Thought Being a Single Parent Would Be So Hard Financially

In today’s world, kids are expensive.

Actually, everything is expensive and in my home state, it’s doubly so. When my ex and I started talking about divorce, I knew it would be financially hard. I lived on my own before getting married, and I knew it would be a costly endeavor, especially with a kid. It definitely was discouraging, but I knew we had to make the call. Even if I ended up struggling for eternity, this marriage was ending.

I never believed that I would struggle for eternity (and still don’t). If you asked me five years ago when we separated what my financial long-term plan was, I’d tell you it was to pay off debts, save and live. Are those bad goals? Nope, they’re fine — but they weren’t concrete or specific enough.

I talked to a financial planner thanks to the amazing organization, Savvy Ladies. I budgeted. In fact, I still tweak my budget often and track my spending daily. I even budgeted for emergencies and stuff that might happen along the way while I planned out my “financial life” as a single parent.

 

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Hang Tight,

Laura

How to Put Those Financial Resolutions in Action in 2019

After losing my job when my company went bankrupt, I spent the majority of 2018 scrambling each month to keep it together. I’m proud to say that I did it, despite the obstacles, which changed my outlook about life and myself, greatly. Needless to say, it was a stressful year and so I was grateful to start 2019 with a new job and a commitment to get things on track, financially.

If you’re like me and ready to stay on top of your budget and finances this year and have made it a part of your resolution, there are concrete ways to put those resolutions to action in 2019. For some inspiration, I sought out the trusted advice of Savvy Ladies, a non-profit organization that provides personal finance education and resources for women to inspire them to plan for the future.

This isn’t the first time I’ve turned to this wonderful organization for guidance. When I first got divorced, I turned to them and then, when I lost my house in the divorce, I returned for more trusted advice. I can’t sing the organization’s praises more highly than I do!

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New Year, New Start,

Laura