How to Get the Best Revenge on Someone Who Hurt You

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When I got divorced, I did not want any revenge on my ex. I only wanted him to be happy. In general with most break ups I had, I wished the person well and we remained friends. A few didn’t want to be friends and a few I sort of didn’t really care for, but generally revenge is just not my cup of tea.

But occasionally, we all have someone who has cut us to the bone and disappointed us in such huge ways that it feels as if we will never be ok. Of course, someone great always comes around to show up that fool who hurt you, but in the meantime, dealing with the hurt can be challenging.

Here are “good ways” to get revenge so you can feel great and let the fool be smarting … not you!

Ignore The Person

In public. In private. Always. When you see the person, snub him or her. Don’t return a smile. Don’t be kind. Don’t be mean. Just ignore the person.

If that person hurt you, he or she doesn’t deserve your time.

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The Person Who Sews Your Heart Back Together

 

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One day, when you have believed it to be impossible. One day, when you will have waited so long you don’t even remember a time when you weren’t waiting.

One day, when you have exhausted all hope and thrown all your cards in–

someone will show up and sew your heart back together.

She will stitch together the pieces your ex left when she cheated or ran you ragged.

He will knit and craft your broken heart edges that remained from your ex’s cruel words or lack of love.

This person will show up, and seem like a myth or a fable. This person will seem like a mirage or a hologram, but indeed:

He or she will be very, very, very real.

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6 Things to Consider Before Moving

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Making a move can be very scary. It can be hard to make the change, especially if you thought your current home would be a forever place or circumstances like divorce, breaking up or a job change force you into a move.

And if you’re on the fence about a move and mulling it over, pulling the trigger can also be hard. Here are some things to consider when debating to move … or not.

Will it Further Your Career in a Significant Way?

If moving will elevate you to the next level, do it! These opportunities only come around once in a lifetime.  You may not have the same opportunity again.

This is especially key if it will lift your salary in a big way.

Will it Help You Heal?

If you move, will you heal a divorce or break-up?

Or will you be just as sad or hurting if you leave?

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4 Meaningful Twists On The Divorce Party To Help You Heal

Nowadays, people don’t just sign the divorce papers and move on with their lives. People party.

Literally, folks throw divorce parties.

It sounds a bit sarcastic and ironic to some people—and maybe even wrong, but for some who have gone through the process and rebuilt their lives due to a divorce, a party seems more than appropriate.

It is a brand-new life—one that is wildly different than the one you celebrated on your wedding day. So, why not make a toast to this new uncharted territory? However, while a party may be nice, there are other ways to mark and honor this new chapter in your life that go beyond cocktails and celebratory martinis.

Try one of these 4 meaningful twists on the divorce party to truly get your new life started on the right foot:

The Divorce Hike

Before you go joking that your ex would be happy if you fell off a cliff, consider all the real mental and physical ways a hike can change you.

Gathering with friends or going alone (if you’re not a novice hiker) is a truly spiritual way to celebrate your entrance to this new life.

Read More: 4 Meaningful Twists On The Divorce Party To Help You Heal

Go For It!

Laura

5 Life Remedies You Need to Heal A Broken Heart Over The Holidays

The holidays are sort of like a high: they rush in, take over your life, and fill your schedule with a bunch of activities. They take charge of your wallet (unless you shop smart!) and tug at your heartstrings. What makes the holidays so special are the memories and traditions we have created with our loved ones. The yearly family photos. The gift-giving exchanges.

That’s what makes the holidays so amazing: the love.

So, what happens when you’re going through a breakup, a loss of a parent or loved one, or a divorce at the holidays?

The heartache feels like it’s amplified a million times more. Every tradition or moment is tinged with that former person’s presence, whether it’s an ex-husband or a parent who passed. There is a ghost in the room with everything you do.

It’s understandable to feel this pain in a more pronounced way during the holidays, but how can you help yourself heal and enjoy the time with your loved ones and beautiful children despite the heartache?

Read More: 5 Life Remedies You Need to Heal A Broken Heart Over The Holidays

Just Heal,

Laura