7 Easy Little Things She Wishes You Would Do (That Mean A Lot)

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We often overlook the little things that occur, thinking they’re not important when really, they mean so much to the other person. And sometimes, it’s when we ignore or forget to do those little things that the people we love feel unloved or not appreciated.

Funny enough, people often say women are so complicated but really, there are so many little things that we women appreciate that aren’t big gestures or grand gifts.

If you care about a special woman, here are 7 little easy things she wishes you would do to show her she’s important that will mean so much to her:

Make Dinner and Add Candles

Don’t ask her what to make. Just cook or order in, add candles and invite her over to relax. You can also bring the dinner to her or if you live together, tell her it’s on you tonight.

Wish Her Good Morning or a Good Day

We all get so busy that it’s hard to find time to communicate but a quick good morning text, kiss or call is always sweet.

Tell Her She’s Special or You’re Thinking About Her

It’s always nice to hear that you are special or that someone you care about is thinking about you.

Encourage Her After a Rough Day

When she’s had a bad day, supoort is always appreciated whether it’s a hug or word of encouragement.

Draw Her a Bath or Give Her a Massage

When she’s tired and has no energy, a bath or massage or both are small lovely gestures that will mean so much to her.

Surprise Her With Quality Time Together

A little surprise time together will uplift her spirits and make her feel that she is important to you.

Help Her Without Her Having to Ask

Your helping hands could mean so much, especially if you offer to help and she hasn’t asked.

Little Things Are The Big Things,

Laura

Someone Who Deserves You

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Someone who deserves you …

Feels honored to be by your side.
Is proud of you.
Loves showing you off to friends and family and the world.

Shows you deep respect and care.

Is kind to you.

Wants to spend time with you and not just for his or her own needs.

Expresses love to you.

Works on him or herself to be the best person he or she can be— not just for you, but for themselves as well.

Doesn’t take you for granted.

Wants you to stick around.

Can’t imagine life without you.

Appreciates you and attempts to understand you.

Listens to you.

Makes the effort to be available to you.

❤️
Laura

Calling Someone Out on Their Cold Behavior Takes Guts

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I was excited to finally enjoy some alone time with a partner when the person announced he didn’t have any interest in seeing me.

Cold and heartless, I was so hurt.
There was nothing I had done wrong but this person had no desire to see me on the one chance I had free.

It was a glaring sign that this person not only didn’t care about me, but also thought very little of me and didn’t respect me.

I hit a wall. I had to call out the bad behavior because I had had enough.

The moral of the story? It’s hard to tell others how we feel but it’s necessary and when people are unkind and disrespectful , it’s necessary to say you’ve had enough.

Be Strong,

Laura

Why Giving Up & Deciding to Not Settle Anymore Is The Best Thing EVER

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Climbing up a mountain is exhausting, but when you hit the top– it’s amazing!

However, when you’re with someone who doesn’t love or care about you while you try to make things work, it’s like you’re climbing a mountain constantly. That’s exhaustion with no reward.

It is really hard to give up on someone you love but if the person is constantly letting you down, never making you a priority, not caring about you, not there for you and not investing in you, giving up and deciding to not settle is the best thing you can do.

When you really look at your relationship, are you happy? Does the person love you and make you feel loved? Do they make you and the relationship a priority? Do you really matter and are you a pivotal part of this person’s life or does this person just take you for granted? Are you an option they pick “sometimes?” Do they keep you on the sidelines? Do they make you feel like #2,3 or 500?

If the answer is yes, what are you waiting for?

Give up trying to make someone appreciate you and love you. It’s exhausting work and not worth your time. I bet if you count up all the minutes YOU prioritized your relationship while counting up all the minutes he/she DIDN’T prioritize your relationship, I am pretty sure you’d see what I mean.

You deserve someone who values you and your relationship. You deserve someone who makes you #1.

Stop settling and roaming around the dirt, never getting the love you deserve.

Start shooting for the stars and get what is meant for you.

All My Love,

Laura

When You’ve Had Enough: The Last Straw

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So long, Mr./Mrs. Nice Guy! Even we nice people get to a point where we can’t handle being taken for granted. Even nice people get tired of people’s crap and tired when people let us down. We give you folks so many chances but at some point, even we say– “Enough is enough.”

Have you ever felt as if you’re always giving people a chance? Always being patient and understanding of their issues? Always hoping the best for them? Putting in the extra effort? Going the extra mile?

Yeah well, we nice people get tired of giving, giving and giving, while people take, take and take. We get tired of being “so understanding” of other’s issues. And doing our best to keep everyone happy– friends, partners, family, etc.

There comes a point when it’s the last straw– the last straw to break the camel’s back. When we’re tired of someone hurting us, letting us down and disappointing us.

When that time comes, you best believe that even nice people say– “Screw it.”

We withdraw everything! We withdraw our love, our care, our friendship, our respect and our time. We withdraw from caring about someone who doesn’t give a hoot about us. We say– “Enough is enough.”

And suddenly, we don’t care about you. We have no time for you. We have no patience, no love and no nothing for you.

Our goodwill and love has an expiration date– today. 2020.

Peace Out,

Laura

 

 

3 Things That Affect Whether Someone Trusts You or Not

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You may be a trustworthy person, but if you’re doing the following three things … your love interest and or partner may not trust you as much. It may even be unintentional completely, but small things can build up over time to affect how someone trusts you. If you’re unpredictable, not available or distant, you could end up causing someone to feel as if he or she can’t put all his or her faith in you.

Unpredictability

If you’re not reliable or can’t be counted on whether in general or suddenly, your partner may start to feel anxious around you. Instability doesn’t lead to trust and comfort. It leads to anxiety and distance.
Be consistent.

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The Moment When You Decide You Are Going to Be Loved Exactly As You Want to Be

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We all hit a point in our lives when we decide– whether very early on or later on– that we have had enough and want more.

We all hit that point where we are ready to own our lives and make our dreams come true.

We all come to that point where we decide that we absolutely without a doubt, cannot settle.

No more settling. No more waiting around. No more hoping for things to work out.

No more allowing people who don’t love or value us to continue to have us for nothing.

We decide we are opening ourselves up to all good and amazing possibilities.

From here on out even if the water is rough, we are going full throttle into the deep and finding what we want.

We say “adios” and swim forward to the future.

We find someone who fully embraces us. Fully wants us and cherishes us. Someone who gives us his or her all– just as we do in return.

We open ourselves completely to love in a positive way, whether we are 20, 40, 60 or older. We choose to seek out someone who truly cannot imagine a day or time without us. We choose to seek out someone who really is in it for the long haul– no games or BS> We find someone who loves us as is, flaws and all.

We decide to love and be love– and to ask only and I mean only for the best from our partner.

We decide that taking less than what we deserve is no longer acceptable. It is no longer serving us well.

We decide that we deserve the happy ending– and the happy middle and all.

We choose the best for us because we know we are deserving.

Every single human on this Earth wants to be loved and feel special. All of us.

We all want to be cherished and desired. We want to be loved.

And there will come a day for all of us when we know what we want and we will do everything in our power to get that love we deserve– without hesitation.

With Love & Light,

Laura

 

5 Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Special After You’ve Been Unavailable or Distracted

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We all want to feel important and cherished, whether we are an introvert, extrovert or something in-between. We all seek that attention and care from someone special, although the ways we may want that attention can vary. None of us want to be intimate with someone and then tossed aside. Unless of course, it was a one-night stand– but that’s for another blog. None of us want to feel ignored or not valued. We all want to feel special.

That being said, how good have you really been at showing the person you care about that he/she matters? Have you been sort of busy and unable to touch base? Have you been slacking or selfish or just not 100% there when with your partner? Have you had too much on your mind and been too distracted?

If you love someone and feel like maybe you need to give your special person some extra TLC for whatever reason, try these easy ideas to brighten their day.

Remember that every relationship  and marriage is truly a garden: it must be tended to, lest it grows weeds or dies.

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9 Compliments That Women Love to Hear

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There is nothing like a sweet genuine compliment from a man to make me feel completely loved and charmed. I don’t know about other ladies whether they need that from their male or female partner but, some good verbal affirmations does my heart and soul good.

So, for those of you ladies and gents looking to make a lady feel good, don’t hesitate to speak up and speak out. She wants to be appreciated and when you compliment her, you are showing her that you:

  • Notice how amazing she is
  • Appreciate her
  • Value her
  • Care enough to take the time to shower her with some TLC

Here are some of my most favorite compliments I’ve received. Feel free to share ones you’ve gotten in the comments.

You’re really strong

Acknowledging that I am a strong and resilient person makes me feel capable and appreciated. And admired! This compliment went a long way for me.

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5 Small Romantic Gestures That Make My Bad Days Better

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There is nothing like a small gesture of romance to brighten up a really dark day.

We all have those– crappy days and sometimes, weeks or months. For me, the past few weeks have been a doozy, leaving me really tired and left with very little alone time or time to feel refreshed. And so there is nothing like a small romantic gesture to ease the burden of those rough days. Truly, whether we are married, dating or mingling, someone’s positive actions can really help lift our spirits and help us feel loved.

Here are 5 small but very impactful– and romantic gestures– to make the bad days so much better! Each one of these gestures have made me smile and feel better during the crappiest times. They are truly simple ways to show someone you care when they need to hear it the most, and they cost nothing.

A surprise hug

A knock on your door from someone beloved offering a hug is a tiny gesture, but romantic nonetheless. Who doesn’t love a surprise visit from someone special?

That hug can make the stress and hardship of the day meltaway.

A tender note

An inspiring note that shares how much someone is thinking about you. A note of encouragement. A sexy note.

Handwritten. Emailed. Texted. All are beautiful small gestures that can really make someone feel loved when the person needs it most.

A massage

Some hands on attention is a recipe for romantic stress-relief, no doubt.

Whether you’re newly dating or married for ages, a nice massage after a crap day is a wonderful way to say you care about someone.

A homecooked meal

Feeding a stressed love interest or partner is a great way to ease that person’s burden. Make it romantic by adding candles and some wine.

Plus, the dessert= chocolate, of course.

An hour or two in bed

Cuddling. Relaxing. Reading to one another. Listening to music.

Just being there to listen or relax is romantic. Quality alone time makes a big difference when someone needs the love and support the most.

It really is easy to make someone feel loved. It takes less effort than you even realize, but it reaps a lot of reward!

In the Stars,

Laura