3 Ways to Gently Nudge Your Husband to Be Better in the Bedroom

Your best man may not have the heart to tell you what he wants differently in the bedroom, but he certainly will ask for you to try new things or simply to enter the bedroom with him. But moms? Well, we hesitate to ask for anything different in bed lest we hurt the male ego, which can brood silently for weeks, months, and years without a word until bam — he’s snapped! You don’t want to hurt Dad’s feelings if he’s not quite hitting the spot in the bedroom, but in a healthy relationship you should be able to ask for something you want (within reason) and the person should be willing to at least hear you out. Here are some ways you can gently nudge your man to be better in the bedroom without releasing the wrath of khan or ending up in divorce court!

Do the Work For Him With Confidence and Play

Confidence and play make the medicine go down in the most delightful way when done carefully. So if his spoon full of sugar isn’t quite right, whether it’s a particular position or oral sex technique, take the lead! Ask to switch positions, or ask him if you can show him how you love it. Tell him it would make you so happy to do the work and let him sit back and watch (and hopefully) learn.

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Get Into It Girl!

Laura

Moms, Stop Putting Pressure on Dads to Create the Perfect Valentine’s Day

In case you’ve been living in a bubble since Jan. 1, Valentine’s Day is coming up. Get ready for the dud gifts or the smashed-up chocolates or the gift you didn’t want to end up in your lap. Get ready for the guys and dads standing in line last minute at the drugstore buying cards and chocolate. How terrible, right? I mean, couldn’t they have made some effort? Last minute really shows poor attitude, right? It IS Valentine’s Day, after all! The day of love . . . the day of . . .

Wait a minute!

Let’s think about this logically, moms.

Do you think your marriage or partnership truly weighs heavily on the actions of one day? I mean, it’s true — someone could do something terrible to devastate a relationship in one day, but chances are, buying a card at the drugstore on Valentine’s Day and shoving a box of cheap chocolates in your hands is not the worst thing that will happen to your relationship or marriage. Chances are, your hubby or main squeeze loves you to pieces. That last-minute stop? It felt like effort to him. It felt like effort among all the pressures and stresses of life that a dad feels just like you feel, as a mother.

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Appreciate the Small Things,

Laura

7 GLARINGLY Obvious Signs Your Wife Absolutely Hates Your Mom

You’ve met your perfect match and you’re so over the moon for her that you married her, but your favorite gal doesn’t seem to be in love with the original first woman of all time: your mom.

You dreamed they would be best friends — going for manicures and baking at Christmas — but instead, it seems like your wife would rather have oral surgery than go for tea with your mom. What’s a guy to do?

Here are seven huge signs your wife hates (gulp) your mom.

1. She refers to her as “your mother.”

Never mom, never my “mother-in-law,” and never by her first name. It’s always “Your mother” at every turn, and it’s typically said with a cold or disdainful voice. Eeek!

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Sorry to Share the Bad News,

Laura

Why Having Sex Is More Important Than Dieting in 2016

Most people will resolve to eat better, exercise, and stay health conscious for 2016. It’s pretty much the same spiel each year. Most of us know that going to McDonald’s for a Big Mac is not a great choice for our bodies and that we would be better off eating veggies and lean proteins, so there’s no need to beat a dead horse.

What most people don’t think about though is how important it is to have more sex with their partners. Why? Well, some people get all red in the face when you start a conversation with them about sex. Some people may think that if someone is open to sexual conversation, perhaps that woman or man is “loose,” but in my opinion, those people are missing out. Then again, I’m the girl who wrote two songs about ovarian and sperm function (proper words were used in all verses — no potty words!) for her middle school sex education teacher, fondly known as “Banana Boobs” by the kids.

I am so sorry Banana Boobs for calling you that behind your back.

You don’t have to be one inch kinky and could even prefer sex in the missionary position each time, and having more sex would still be crucial for you and your relationship in 2016. Here’s why:

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Just DO it,

Laura

Why You and Your Partner Deserve a Kids-Free New Year’s Eve

Most of the holidays are family-based no matter what you religion you are, and Thanksgiving is the ultimate family holiday of all. But there is one holiday that screams party: New Year’s Eve! Of course, kicking off the New Year with your children is incredibly sweet and sentimental as they matter so much to you, but when was the last time you and your husband or partner stepped out to celebrate in style, alone?

Probably not in ages and for some of you, maybe even a decade! Yet all December long, moms and dads spend money and time putting together the perfect holidays for their children, so why shouldn’t a couple choose to do something nice for each other by taking the night off from parenting to spend quality time letting loose with each other?

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Do It!

Laura

I Was Not Prepared For How a Kid Changes Marriage

One day I was talking to a friend who was having marital problems, and she said, “Well, hopefully when the baby comes, things will be different.” She thought a second child would change things with her marriage for the better, but notions like these are false, in my opinion. A child doesn’t make marital problems diminish. In fact, they magnify problems instead of help them go away, or if the problems don’t get worse, they most certainly don’t disappear, unfortunately.

A baby isn’t a magical wish maker. A baby is a person with needs, wants, and desires who will demand a lot of you and your partner. The more kids you have? The more demands.

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Knowing Is Half The Battle,

Laura