Why Do People Let Us Down?
People let us down for many reasons. One, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all mess up. I know I made mistakes no matter how hard I tried, but that’s ok. We are human.
It’s when people let us down a lot that it becomes more about them– and not about “Oh, I messed up.”
People let us down because they lack commitment and dedication to us.
And when someone isn’t dedicated or committed, he or she won’t try as hard. The person will make less effort, care less and feel less. This person will be a bad friend, a negligent girlfriend or a distant husband.
People let us down because we have more hope and love for them than they do for us.
You’re a dedicated loving spouse. Your spouse is cold, distant or perhaps, unfaithful. When someone doesn’t care as much as we do, that person will go astray. When we love hard, we love hard. When someone doesn’t love much, we feel that lack of love. We feel that emptiness and loneliness.
People let us down out of stress and fear.
When people are anxious, gun-shy or afraid, they often let us down unintentionally. When people are stressed and pushed to their max capacity, they often let us down. They don’t mean to, but they do.
No one is perfect.
We all make mistakes.
The trick is to learn from our mistakes and do better the next time because we care. And when people don’t care, they don’t do better.
It’s up to us to do better.