6 Things I Wish I’d Done Differently With My Former Mother-In-Law

I had a difficult relationship with my ex-husband’s mother. There were many things she did that hurt me, but looking back, there are things I could have done differently for my own sanity and for the sake of the relationship.

Today, she is usually very helpful to me and also, a great grandmother. Although we don’t live near each other, she is as supportive as she can be from afar. I know she truly loves my daughter. I feel (I hope) she appreciates how hard I try as a single mom to raise my daughter right, and sees that I attempt to keep a good relationship with her son. Does it always work out? No, it doesn’t, but I try my best.

People are shocked at the change in our relationship—for the better—since my divorce. I am sure it’s helped that I’m not her son’s wife anymore and that I’m the mother of her favorite grandchild (OK, technically that’s not proven). Whatever the reason for the change, I am grateful for it. We let the past stay in the past and have forged a good path for the future. I know, overall, we both want my daughter/her granddaughter to be happy.

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Everything Looks Better In Hindsight,

Laura

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3 Signs Your MIL Is Hell-Bent on Destroying You

The almighty mother-in-law. The one woman that is feared by all daughter-in-laws of the world. At least initially.

If you have the lucky fortune of being your MIL’s favorite daughter-in-law, congrats! You have achieved a status so many of us wish we could reach but sadly, never have or never do. If you have a difficult relationship with your MIL that either runs hot and cold or worse or is so brutal the two of you would fare well in a boxing ring, you’ll commiserate with these three harsh signs that your MIL wishes for your destruction.

Snubs Your Invites

Your mother-in-law would rather die, yes die, than go to a party, holiday, or any other occasion that the underling daughter-in-law is throwing. She somehow has to do her hair, feed the needy, raise money for the poor, and just about every other thing under the sun than attend a fete you’ve organized.

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Remember She’s Grandma & Act Accordingly,

Laura

Why Does Your MIL Dislike You After The Birth of Your Child?

You had her favorite and only grandchild and so your mother-in-law couldn’t be any more excited! Technically, you should be her favorite person, and for a while there, you were. She called and texted you constantly and couldn’t wait to hear more about how the baby was doing. She even asked how you felt after labor (or a C-section) and brought you a little postbirth present. You two were sort of like BFFs. Well, as close as you can be with someone who’s not your own mom and as close as she can be with someone who, well, took her son away. Sniff.

But now? Oh, it’s a whole different ball game. Before you could do no wrong, as the bearer of the greatest of all: the grandbaby. But now? Now you are doing everything wrong, according to your dear old mother-in-law. Here are three signs your MIL kind of hates you after having her grandchild.

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Eek!

Laura

7 GLARINGLY Obvious Signs Your Wife Absolutely Hates Your Mom

You’ve met your perfect match and you’re so over the moon for her that you married her, but your favorite gal doesn’t seem to be in love with the original first woman of all time: your mom.

You dreamed they would be best friends — going for manicures and baking at Christmas — but instead, it seems like your wife would rather have oral surgery than go for tea with your mom. What’s a guy to do?

Here are seven huge signs your wife hates (gulp) your mom.

1. She refers to her as “your mother.”

Never mom, never my “mother-in-law,” and never by her first name. It’s always “Your mother” at every turn, and it’s typically said with a cold or disdainful voice. Eeek!

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Sorry to Share the Bad News,

Laura

3 Times You Will Cry Thanks to Your Mother-in-Law Over the Holidays

‘Tis the season for bright lights, cookies, gift wrapping, and in-laws! Some of you are already drinking simply knowing you’ll be spending lots of “quality time” with the in-laws, while others who are blessed can’t wait for the chance to hug their in-laws hello. Even the nicest of in-laws, though, especially those mother-in-laws, will bring the calmest and most easygoing mother to tears if you’re spending long amounts of time mingling with the in-laws. Here are three times your mother-in-law is bound to make you sob into your eggnog or latkes at the holidays. Grab the tissues and some chocolate. If your MIL is a real “sweet” one, add Xanax to that list.

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Sniff, Sniff,

Laura

10 No-Question-About-It Signs Your Mom HATES Your Wife

If your mother doesn’t like your wife, you probably have a good idea that she’s not happy with your better half. But my comprehensive list that your mom hates your wife will be the real tip-off as to whether your mom is #TeamWife or #TeamIWantMySonBack.

It’s no secret that mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws can clash from time-to-time. Typically, it’s simply a case of two strong personalities, two different personalities, or perhaps the case of one mom who can’t let her son go. For me, I was the hated wife and let me tell you: it sucked, plain and simple. There were many times I wish my ex handled the situation, but it’s hard to be between two women you love.

Men, remember this: you chose your wife. You chose to get married. You picked her as your family. Stand by her side and don’t let your mother’s hatred or anyone’s hatred get between you and your marriage or you will slowly watch as your marriage disintegrates. Here’s how to tell if your mom hates your wife.

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It’s the Truth, Pal,

Laura