Socially Distant Dates: Are You Going on Them or Avoiding Altogether?

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It’s a very weird time to be single and I’ve spoken to quite a few people who all have a different take on single life during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Some people, have said they have taken a break from online dating altogether. The idea of managing online dating while dealing with their various circumstances during the pandemic is too much. Others don’t feel comfortable at all meeting even 6 feet apart and others still, find the video calling and potentially long waits of meeting in person not worth delving into online at this time.

Others have taken the circumstances to work to their advantage: I know quite a few people are meeting in parks or speaking to each other from porches or stoops.  Other people still, are video calling or chatting via phone before meeting either in person at a park or, when restrictions are lifted. Some relationships are even taking off: from a socially distant park meet up, to deciding to socially distance together, including the new person in their social circle of who they will interact with during this public health crisis. I have to say that having a buddy and partner must make this  whole isolation easier and I commend people for making it happen during such a bleak time.

There is a lot to consider before making a call like this:

  • How safe do you feel meeting someone in a park? Meeting during the day is the best bet in an active park. Make sure someone knows where you are, who you are meeting and what time you’ll be back.
  • How much protection will you use? Meaning, will you wear a mask or just keep your distance or both?
  • How willing are you to even meet someone at this time? Not willing? Very willing?
  • How ready are you to incorporate a new person into your life?

I would love to hear people’s stories, opinions and experiences in the comments!

You could help someone make that call– many people are on the fence about what to do during this time.

Lots of Love,

Laura

7 Annoying, Creepy or Rude Online Dating Behaviors

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For a good chunk of the year, I decided to skip online dating and take a break from all of it.

As the tail end of the year arrived, I figured I might give dating a try again. Why not? So, in that whole process, I signed up for a few different apps.

My god. How is it that I have selective amnesia, forgetting how hideously awful and also, slightly humorous and scary this whole beast is?

Here are some of the most consistent and crappy findings I’ve noticed online. If you are doing these things or behaving this way, please stop. No one thinks you’re cute. Really.

Using Random Photos Without Your Human Face in ANY of Them

Literally, landscapes are beautiful but unless you’re a mountain, I believe your profile photo should be one of a human. Preferably of you– not someone else.

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4 Things to Remember About Online Dating

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Online Dating is a bizarre place, indeed. I have to wonder what people are thinking sometimes with the things they write, share or use as photos with the goals of meeting someone.

For example, one man wore a squirrel outfit as a main profile pic. Funny? Maybe, if you like nuts. Haha.

Another man looked like he was half asleep or high.

In other words, you have to have a really good sense of humor in order to swipe left and right for more than ten minutes. It’s easy to see why people don’t really enjoy the process. Both my male and female friends seem to groan over the whole thing.

So, if you’re about ready to swipe left or right on potential matches, keep these 4 things in mind in order to laugh more and cry less.

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8 Safety Tips You MUST Read Before Dating Online

When I heard the news about the murder of Ingrid Lyne, single mother of three children and Seattle resident, I was floored.

It could have been me.

Not that I know that monster who killed her or live in Seattle, but that I am a single mother looking for love online. It wasn’t the first date. The news reports states that they had been seeing each other for six to eight weeks. A new romance gone completely and utterly, devastatingly wrong. Should I then, single woman, step away from the dating apps and sites? My paranoia says yes — run away! But the reality is that monsters exist everywhere and anywhere and so, if women want to online date we must keep our heads about us and make smart choices when meeting strangers for the possibility of true love. Here are some tips to keep in mind after you’ve swiped right and decided to meet, face-to-face.

Read More: 8 Safety Tips You MUST Read Before Dating Online

 

Be Careful,

Laura

Dating Sites and Apps for Single Working Moms—a Roundup

You’re single, you’re a mom, you have a job—and you want to date. Me too. So before you tell me it’s impossible, I offer you this: Anything is possible! I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough. I’m right there in the trenches online and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble. Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. Yet.

So here’s the “downlow” on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). You should try too. And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your jammies if you want.

Phone Apps

Tinder
Pros: Tinder is quick and easy. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes. You won’t waste time filling out large forms and questionnaires, and your pictures are right there on Facebook. (Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety. You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple. Once you’ve set age and distance preferences, you start swiping. A simple swipe left and dreamguy is gone forever; a simple swipe right, and he could end up a match for life!

Read More: Dating Sites and Apps for Single Working Moms—a Roundup

Give it A Shot,

Laura

 

6 Online Dating No-Nos For Single Moms

You’re online looking for love or dates, whether it’s through an app or a site or both, and you’re finally getting out there. Good for you, Single Mom! But wait . . . before you get too eager, watch out for some of these absolute no-nos when online dating after divorce, whether it’s a mistake on your profile or the wrong attitude predate. Putting your best foot forward and approaching online dating with the right attitude makes finding that second love easier and better!

Put the Past Away

While I myself am online looking for a great man for me, I have checked out both men’s and women’s profiles simply for research I have done for articles on online dating — like this one. One of the biggest no-nos I see time and again is reference to the past.

Read more: 6 Online Dating No-Nos For Single Moms

Don’t Do it Ladies!

Laura

What Men Want, According to Online Dating

I’m trying this online dating thing. You see, I’m late 30s and almost officially divorced. As a single mom, I don’t have much options meeting men and when I do go out, guys in their mid-20s flock to me. It’s sweet but not really practical.

So here I am, finally splashing in the big kid pool called dating. I wasn’t sure what men wanted at my age. I mean, I had been monogamous for years and so I didn’t know what to expect. I signed up for a few sites, and low and behold, I have learned a few things about what men want, according to online dating. I thought it would be conversation, company, and maybe sex.
Turns out it’s not exactly what I had expected.

Read More on HuffPost Comedy: What Men Want, According to Online Dating

Yard Work is for the Birds,

Laura

5 Things Dads Might Lie About In Their Online Dating Profiles

Lying happens whether it’s a woman or a man on an online dating site. Sometimes the lies are little white lies designed to make a person look better. Other times, the lies may be hurtful, like a man or woman stating he/she is single if he/she really isn’t, or a man not sharing that he has a child. Despite this big or little white lies, online dating is still a viable way to meet someone as long as you put in the effort. I personally did not put in the effort, and so I deleted my profile.

Here are however, 5 things both innocent and not innocent, that a dad might lie about in his online profile.

No matter though, don’t give up hope yet. Your Prince is waiting for you!

Fairy Godmother,

Laura

More Things You Shouldn’t Put On A Dating Profile: How to Online Date

It’s a scary world out there, but the fact is that you gotta live in it, and for some of us, date in it.

I haven’t dared to reach out to some of the nut jobs I see online, but I have learned some valuable lessons.

Dudes, if you want to nab a date or a hot “ride” for the night, here are some additional things you need to consider. To read my first 5 tips for what to NOT put on your online dating profile boys, go here.

Now without further adieu, here goes part II:

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