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12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

In love, relationships, women on July 10, 2017 at 11:59 am

Words aren’t always cheap, and talk isn’t always hot air. One compliment can do a lot to a heart that was so happy to hear it. Genuine notes of appreciation go so far with someone. It’s amazing, powerful, and a bit scary to know that what you say to someone can impact him or her for the bad . . . or good . . . forever. I still remember the time one of my favorite people said he was proud of me and how my daughter is lucky to have me.

I spoke to women who shared with me the words that someone said to them that impacted their hearts for the better. What has someone said to you that made you feel amazing?

1-“I was walking down the street and a young woman stopped me and said, ‘Excuse me, you’re beautiful.’ I was stunned.”

2-“My sweetie says I light up the room when I walk in.”

3-“A man said I’m the most beautiful woman he knew in real life and that I was the smartest person he knew.”

Read More:  12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

Say Something Sweet,

Laura

8 Secrets Your Partner Isn’t Telling You (and That’s OK)

In relationships on June 26, 2017 at 6:28 pm

Obviously two partners shouldn’t be hiding stuff from each other, especially two people who are monogamous and intimate. However, your partner doesn’t need to know your every single waking thought and moment, believe it or not. There are some things that your partner won’t tell you at all — or won’t tell you unless asked — and that’s OK. A little mystery never hurt the romance — and by mystery I mean mystery, not infidelity, addiction, money problems, or other huge relationship no-nos. The two of you should act as a unit, but this doesn’t mean the two of you should lose your identities within each other. Think of it this way: if you forget who you are, how can you still be the amazing person your partner fell for? Makes sense.

Here are some secrets your partner isn’t telling you, and that’s OK.

1. They Got Hit On Today

Do you really need to know about every wink and longing look? No. If you do, you’re insecure and controlling. All that counts is your partner didn’t cheat on you, emotionally or physically.

2. They Had an Issue at Work

This only matters if your partner is about to get laid off or happened to be fired . . . or perhaps if your partner really messed up at work. Even still, your partner may not tell you right away or at all until the issue really affects his or her job status. Why? Well, pride, essentially. He or she may feel disappointed as it is, so to disappoint you as well? That can be crushing.

Read More: 8 Secrets Your Partner Isn’t Telling You (and That’s OK)

It’s All Good,

Laura

9 Signs You’re Not Radically Accepting Him (And It’s Going To Hurt You BOTH)

In marriage, relationships on June 7, 2017 at 1:48 am

As Andrea Miller describes in her book Radical Acceptance, radically accepting your partner isn’t always easy, but it is worth it. Radically accepting this person for who he or she is; radically accepting yourself for who you are; recognizing when your own junk and baggage are creeping into your relationship; recognizing when your desires and needs are projected onto your partner; forgetting that he or she has his or her own unique desires and needs; recognizing when you are getting in the way of your own happiness with your partner; acceptance of yourself and your partner —  this is what love takes.

Here are 9 signs you’re not practicing radical acceptance with your partner.

1. You push them.

This is one I had to learn myself. Pushing someone because you need him or her to do what you want him or her to do won’t help the relationship. It must come from the other person, and if it doesn’t, either you wait for it to come in his or her own time or you decide you cannot be with the person.

If you are pushing your partner to do/be/say something, you are actively asking this person to push you back — and not in the best way. Quit it. Let this person come to around; if not, then you make the choice if this relationship works for you or not.

Read More: 9 Signs You’re Not Radically Accepting Him (And It’s Going To Hurt You BOTH)

Accept Him/Her,

Laura

I Love It When My Spouse Says…

In love, marriage, relationships, romance on June 6, 2017 at 2:21 am

We all want to be told that we are loved — but not everyone wants to be told that in the exact same way! Does your spouse or partner speak your love language? For these people I spoke to, their spouses had something to say that just gets right into their very hearts and souls.

These 28 phrases, whether sexy, sensual, sweet, or kind, really make these married hearts go aflutter!

What does your spouse say that makes you feel so loved?

  1. “I’ll give the kids a bath tonight.”
  2. “Take all the time you need.”
  3. “Good job!”
  4. “You amaze me!”
  5. “Go take a nap — I’ve got this.”
  6. “Everything would fall apart without you.”
  7. “I thought about you a lot today.”
  8. “Meow!”

Read More: I Love it When My Spouse Says…

 

Speak to Her/Him,

Laura

Couples Reveal the ONE Thing They Keep Secret

In marriage, relationships on June 6, 2017 at 2:12 am

Everyone has secrets or things that he or she doesn’t want to share with anyone. Why would couples be any different? That intimacy and closeness has to come with a large dose of trust and a certain amount of exclusivity. While many couples I asked were hesitant to share anything that could incriminate them, these couples shared some of the funny, serious, and daily things that they don’t share with anyone else besides each other!

  1. “We don’t share the amount of money we win or lose when we gamble.”
  2. “I don’t tell others when we fight or how much money we make.”
  3. “Neither of us share our fights or our sex life . . . so people think we’re the perfect couple. Little do they know!”

Read More: Couples Reveal the ONE Thing They Keep Secret

 

What do you keep secret?

Laura

8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

In love, marriage, relationships on May 13, 2017 at 9:05 pm

Only children get a bad rep as being spoiled and self-centered. Personally? I just think the rest of us are so jealous on how good onlies can have it. The focus of their parents’ finances, hearts, and eyes. As the parent of an only, I can see drastic differences between her upbringing and mine, as the youngest of four girls. I can’t tell you how much I cherish having an only, although I would love to have stepchildren for sure. Onlies truly are resilient and bold creatures, making them in my opinion, pretty amazing partners! Here are eight reasons why only children are kick-ass amazing partners!

1. They’re Independent as HELL

While it may sound contradictory to say an independent person would be great in a couple, it’s not. Onlies are independent, meaning they won’t crush their partners with need. They are able to survive on their own and can offer a lot in a relationship. While being “too” independent can make people distant, onlies typically have close relationships with their parents from the very beginning years of life, making these independent gems able to connect with others all while still being self-sufficient.

2. They’re Creative

I spent a lot of time playing alone as a little kid because my sisters were older, but I had a neighbor down the street I could run to. With my only child, I hear the most amazing and creative “stories” playing out right in front of my eyes. Only children are creative because they have to be! If they grew up without kids to play with as much as their friends with siblings did, don’t you think they had to? Plus, only children don’t have “siblings” to take the heat from them when they get in trouble . . . or times are tough at home. They have to be creative to adapt or stay out of trouble. Your creative only child partner will keep things interesting and fresh. An only child as a partner is adaptive and inventive when the chips are down or up!

Read More:  8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

One is an Awesome Number,

Laura

10 Tiny Things A Man Does When He’s About Ready To Break Up With You

In relationships on May 13, 2017 at 8:45 pm

You can never be certain someone is about to dump you, unless, of course, the person tells you. However, with that said, how many of you could predict some of your past breakups? I know I could. I felt that sick feeling in my stomach before it happened.

While I’m no psychic and I can’t predict your future, I can tell you that there are a few signs that a man might be about to dump you. If you notice these signs you can do one of three things: relax and let it unfold; ask him if that’s where’s headed (although, he may say no out of defense or uncertainty); or talk to him to see if there’s a way to salvage the relationship. You can also dump him first if you’re over him too, but if you still care about him don’t do it!!

Here’s how to tell a guy wants to break up with you.

1. He has a sudden voracious interest in himself.

Yes, your partner should have an independent life outside of the relationship, but if he suddenly puts all of his free time into things that don’t include you, be aware. Most likely, he’s prepping himself for a life that doesn’t include you.

Read More: 10 Tiny Things A Man Does When He’s About Ready To Break Up With You

Finding Treasure Among The Trash

In divorce, life, relationships, single mom on April 11, 2017 at 2:16 am

My one-year divorce-aversary is coming up quickly.

It’s made me stop to think about the year and overall, it’s been a rough one.

Every time I thought I had things under control, life would pull the rug under me and laugh saying, “Not so fast, blondie.”

There were some moments in which I thought—I just can’t do this. Many moments. The feeling was overwhelming, but then suddenly, I turned a corner. Not that I don’t sometimes feel defeated about caring for myself and my daughter on my own…not that I don’t look at my bank account and think, “When does it get better?” because I do… a lot.

Not that I don’t think, when another issue comes up with my ex, “What now?”

But that I believe wholeheartedly that I will manage it. Somehow, I managed when I thought I couldn’t during numerous moments throughout this year. And honestly, out of the three years we have been done with our marriage, this one was the hardest by far—proving that no two divorce journeys are alike.

And here it is spring. A time of new growth. A time of warmer sun. A time of longer days.

And for the first time, I will be without my child for six whole nights.

Originally when we split, we shared her time 50/50, and it was challenging making a life for myself when she was gone with dad. Then as her dad started to take less and less and less time with her, suddenly, it was the two of us again, attached at the hip just like we had been when I was a stay-at home mom.

I’ve never been apart from my daughter for this long. I’ve never missed the chance to dye eggs or see the bunny in time for Easter. It’s this time of the year that I am most sentimental about missing my stay-at home days with her… she just turned six and I still remember those days…the ones rocking her in her chair, her nursing to sleep. The ones in which we hopped from park to park, drawing on the sidewalks, writing letters, and swinging on swings…climbing to the top and me wondering if she wasn’t going just a little too high…or not.

How quiet the house is going to be for six whole nights…getting used to that silence. Getting used to being alone with my own thoughts.

 

Read more: Finding Treasure Among The Trash

Diamond in the Rough,

Laura

10 Ways You’re Making Him PANIC (And Back Away From Your Relationship)

In dating advice, relationships on April 11, 2017 at 2:12 am

Sometimes, it’s his own character or situation that provokes panic from your actions; in other cases, you do stuff to bring on panic that never existed.

There are many situations that can scare guys away and you have to decide if you’re causing him anxiety or if he’s dealing with issues that cause him to panic over everything. Here are 9 ways you’re scaring him away.

1. You mention marriage any moment you can.

Sure, things are going well for you and your guy, but you are pushing him to the edge with your marriage talk. He just got comfortable with the idea of you two being a solid, committed pair, and now, no matter what you two are doing, marriage is part of every conversation.

Emails with wedding ring images. Pinterest boards on weddings you just “happen” to send him links to. Pointing out couples that are engaged. You don’t even have regular conversations anymore. You’re making him panic hardcore.

2. You never let him reach out to you. 

You are the one to initiate every move and you’re not giving him the chance to let him chase you or make plans. Even if you’re not needy, it scares guys away and makes him think you’re going to suffocate him. It’s easy to be enthusiastic about someone you like. Just back off and let him do some of the driving. Men like to pursue.

Read More: 10 Ways You’re Making Him PANIC (And Back Away From Your Relationship)

Is He Afraid?

Laura

If Your Man is Like a Cat-Back Exhaust System, You’re In Luck

In dating, dating advice, men, relationships on March 29, 2017 at 7:09 pm

I never thought I would know anything about cars or men.

Actually, it’s debatable how much I know about the XX species—and I’m still learning about cars.

For a new job of mine, I’ve had to learn a lot about cars, trucks, performance driving, off-roading and then some. If you know me, you already know that all that stuff is Greek to me. But I’m a good student and hate to look stupid, so I’ve been doing my research. When it comes to men, I’ve made stupid mistakes sometimes, and I’m learning too—a work in progress trying to understand the sexy, mysterious and sometimes incredibly weird species, called males. Let’s just say…I have been researching men since age 3 and so far, I’ve yet to find that one guy that can capture me and throw me into his man cave for eternity.

But the other day, I had to write about Cat Back Exhaust Systems, and it made me think of men.

First of all, I knew zilch about exhaust systems, much less what a “cat” had to do with any of it.

But as I read on about mufflers, resonators, and horsepower, I realized that a man’s love or lack thereof, can be compared easily to a Cat Back.

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