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10 Subtle Signs A Man Is Carrying A Broken Heart

In love, relationships on October 16, 2017 at 12:59 am

You’ve met this great guy, but there is something about him that just doesn’t seem quite right. Is it his mood? Does he seem hesitant around you? Does he talk about the ex periodically and when he does it’s like he’s sulking?

Before you become someone’s rebound and end up with your own broken heart, here are 10 signs his heart is broken and you need to beware before dating him.

1. He talks about his ex like he’s injured.

We all talk about our exes now and again. That’s normal as long as it’s not frequent. But when your new dude talks about his ex, he talks like he or she killed his cat or slashed his tires.

2. He’s very hesitant to commit.

He seems very into you but is extremely vague when talking about the future. It seems like he can’t decide what he wants: to keep you at a distance or to bring you closer. That hesitation to commit may be a sign he’s still broken-hearted.

3. He makes jaded comments about love.

When he talks about love, he sounds like a scorned teenage boy who will never believe in a happy ending. You feel a little like he’s been listening to too much Morrissey or The Smiths and wonder why he’s so downtrodden over love. Well, he’s that way because he’s still broken over someone that crushed his dreams and heart.

Read More: 10 Subtle Signs He’s Carrying A Broken Heart

 

Be Weary,

Laura

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Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start

In divorce, love, relationships on October 8, 2017 at 2:37 am

Saying goodbye is probably the most painful thing, ever. It’s the worst word to ever utter. It’s right up there neck and neck with, “I don’t love you” or even worse:

Telling someone you love him or her…and that person not saying I love you back.

Goodbye is final. It’s depressing. It’s heartwrenching. It cuts you right in the gut.

Endings are the worst. Truly. There is no torture worse than a breakup or divorce, right?

Right…very right. And wrong.

When love is real and right, it doesn’t end. It doesn’t end for a few weeks or months. It doesn’t die. It might ebb and flow. You might have times in which your “love tank” for your partner is low.

But it doesn’t end. It doesn’t say goodbye. Real love persists, even when sometimes, g-d damnit, we wish we didn’t love someone …

Real love with someone is forever because it always exists.

So if you’re saying goodbye or someone is leaving you in the dust it is very painful, but sometimes?

It’s very right.

Saying goodbye means that there is a “Hello” about to come right around the corner.

Saying goodbye to someone who isn’t right for you, isn’t right to you, or you two aren’t right together…means a fresh start.

Saying goodbye means you are back on that train platform, waiting to see what destination awaits you.

Where your heart will take you next.

Read More: Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start 

Start Fresh,

Laura

15 Signs He’s Really Unhappy in Your Relationship

In relationships on September 22, 2017 at 1:17 am

Is your significant other coming right out and saying he’s unhappy with your relationship? Most likely not. Men are more apt to keep things in or show their displeasure in other ways. Or perhaps he’s “telling” you he’s unhappy about isolated events or situations in your partnership, but hasn’t outright said, “Hey babe — this isn’t working for me.” Whatever the case may be, here are 15 signs he’s unhappy in your relationship.

  1. He’s wrapped up in other things . . . so much so that he doesn’t notice you like he used to. His distracted nature most likely is a sign that he’s upset about something. Whether it’s the two of you remains to be seen, but if he’s not paying attention to you like he used to . . . you’ve got an issue.

Read More: 15 Signs He’s Really Unhappy in Your Relationship

What Next?

Laura

10 Times He’ll Say ‘I Love You’ (And What It Really Means)

In love, relationships on September 21, 2017 at 2:16 am

ome of us say “I love you” more easily than others but when he says “I love you,” sometimes it means a little more than just those three words. It depends on the context where the words are uttered and, of course, the unique relationship between the two people.

Those three words mean so much, but sometimes, they simply do more justice than spelling it all out for you. Here’s what it means when he says I love you, and how each utterance means something different.

1. When you lose a loved one

He can’t make it better for you, so when he says he loves you, he’s really saying, “I wish I could make the hurt go away.” He wants to eliminate your pain but instead can only offer his love and himself.

2. When you two are fighting

If he tells you he loves you as you two are fighting, there are a few things he may be trying to say:

  • Please stop thinking about why you’re mad and let me charm you.
  • I want the fighting to stop.
  • It’s okay if we don’t see eye-to-eye; I still love you anyway

Read More: 10 Times He’ll Say ‘I Love You’ (And What It Really Means)

What Does It Mean To You?

Laura

9 Things GOOD Men Do That Women Find SERIOUSLY Attractive

In love, relationships on September 7, 2017 at 8:09 pm

Let’s not pay attention to the bad boys because they leave us high and dry and really are no fun, save for a few bedroom romps. Honestly, if you’re over 21 I can tell you: bad boys lose their appeal. They’ve got a clear expiration date. They’re cute when they’re young but as a girl matures into a woman, her patience for them disappears.

And while the saying may be that “good men are hard to find,” they are not impossible to find. They do exist! And when we ladies find a good man, there are so many things about that person that we love that we cannot help but overlook the small things he might do to upset us.

Truly, when you break it down, bad guys are “boys” but good guys are “men.” Would you rather play with a boy, or run with a man?

Here’s what women find attractive and utterly irresistible about men that make bad boys look like little babies.

1. He’s handy.

No, we’re not helpless but I love a man who can fix things. And yes, I’m still a feminist but I’m smart enough to know what I do well and what I don’t. And women love a man who not only can fix things but who also want to fix things for us. Not because he thinks we’re helpless but because he wants to help and make things better for the woman he loves.

Read More: 9 Things GOOD Men Do That Women Find SERIOUSLY Attractive

12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

In love, relationships, women on July 10, 2017 at 11:59 am

Words aren’t always cheap, and talk isn’t always hot air. One compliment can do a lot to a heart that was so happy to hear it. Genuine notes of appreciation go so far with someone. It’s amazing, powerful, and a bit scary to know that what you say to someone can impact him or her for the bad . . . or good . . . forever. I still remember the time one of my favorite people said he was proud of me and how my daughter is lucky to have me.

I spoke to women who shared with me the words that someone said to them that impacted their hearts for the better. What has someone said to you that made you feel amazing?

1-“I was walking down the street and a young woman stopped me and said, ‘Excuse me, you’re beautiful.’ I was stunned.”

2-“My sweetie says I light up the room when I walk in.”

3-“A man said I’m the most beautiful woman he knew in real life and that I was the smartest person he knew.”

Read More:  12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

Say Something Sweet,

Laura

8 Secrets Your Partner Isn’t Telling You (and That’s OK)

In relationships on June 26, 2017 at 6:28 pm

Obviously two partners shouldn’t be hiding stuff from each other, especially two people who are monogamous and intimate. However, your partner doesn’t need to know your every single waking thought and moment, believe it or not. There are some things that your partner won’t tell you at all — or won’t tell you unless asked — and that’s OK. A little mystery never hurt the romance — and by mystery I mean mystery, not infidelity, addiction, money problems, or other huge relationship no-nos. The two of you should act as a unit, but this doesn’t mean the two of you should lose your identities within each other. Think of it this way: if you forget who you are, how can you still be the amazing person your partner fell for? Makes sense.

Here are some secrets your partner isn’t telling you, and that’s OK.

1. They Got Hit On Today

Do you really need to know about every wink and longing look? No. If you do, you’re insecure and controlling. All that counts is your partner didn’t cheat on you, emotionally or physically.

2. They Had an Issue at Work

This only matters if your partner is about to get laid off or happened to be fired . . . or perhaps if your partner really messed up at work. Even still, your partner may not tell you right away or at all until the issue really affects his or her job status. Why? Well, pride, essentially. He or she may feel disappointed as it is, so to disappoint you as well? That can be crushing.

Read More: 8 Secrets Your Partner Isn’t Telling You (and That’s OK)

It’s All Good,

Laura

9 Signs You’re Not Radically Accepting Him (And It’s Going To Hurt You BOTH)

In marriage, relationships on June 7, 2017 at 1:48 am

As Andrea Miller describes in her book Radical Acceptance, radically accepting your partner isn’t always easy, but it is worth it. Radically accepting this person for who he or she is; radically accepting yourself for who you are; recognizing when your own junk and baggage are creeping into your relationship; recognizing when your desires and needs are projected onto your partner; forgetting that he or she has his or her own unique desires and needs; recognizing when you are getting in the way of your own happiness with your partner; acceptance of yourself and your partner —  this is what love takes.

Here are 9 signs you’re not practicing radical acceptance with your partner.

1. You push them.

This is one I had to learn myself. Pushing someone because you need him or her to do what you want him or her to do won’t help the relationship. It must come from the other person, and if it doesn’t, either you wait for it to come in his or her own time or you decide you cannot be with the person.

If you are pushing your partner to do/be/say something, you are actively asking this person to push you back — and not in the best way. Quit it. Let this person come to around; if not, then you make the choice if this relationship works for you or not.

Read More: 9 Signs You’re Not Radically Accepting Him (And It’s Going To Hurt You BOTH)

Accept Him/Her,

Laura

I Love It When My Spouse Says…

In love, marriage, relationships, romance on June 6, 2017 at 2:21 am

We all want to be told that we are loved — but not everyone wants to be told that in the exact same way! Does your spouse or partner speak your love language? For these people I spoke to, their spouses had something to say that just gets right into their very hearts and souls.

These 28 phrases, whether sexy, sensual, sweet, or kind, really make these married hearts go aflutter!

What does your spouse say that makes you feel so loved?

  1. “I’ll give the kids a bath tonight.”
  2. “Take all the time you need.”
  3. “Good job!”
  4. “You amaze me!”
  5. “Go take a nap — I’ve got this.”
  6. “Everything would fall apart without you.”
  7. “I thought about you a lot today.”
  8. “Meow!”

Read More: I Love it When My Spouse Says…

 

Speak to Her/Him,

Laura

Couples Reveal the ONE Thing They Keep Secret

In marriage, relationships on June 6, 2017 at 2:12 am

Everyone has secrets or things that he or she doesn’t want to share with anyone. Why would couples be any different? That intimacy and closeness has to come with a large dose of trust and a certain amount of exclusivity. While many couples I asked were hesitant to share anything that could incriminate them, these couples shared some of the funny, serious, and daily things that they don’t share with anyone else besides each other!

  1. “We don’t share the amount of money we win or lose when we gamble.”
  2. “I don’t tell others when we fight or how much money we make.”
  3. “Neither of us share our fights or our sex life . . . so people think we’re the perfect couple. Little do they know!”

Read More: Couples Reveal the ONE Thing They Keep Secret

 

What do you keep secret?

Laura