What It’s Like When Someone Likes You, BUT Doesn’t Like You Enough

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When I was in my twenties, I dated this guy who was very much my type, but also really flaky. Hot and cold, he wanted the relationship but didn’t want the relationship. I really liked him and wanted the relationship, but he would change his mind a lot. It was annoying.

I hit my breaking point one day as I was going to visit my family for the holidays from the city, where I was living. I was sad and tired. Sad of him being a flaky pain in my butt. Sad of feeling neglected and also, on his back and forth path. Enough was enough. I wanted off his space cadet tour.

I told him I was done, but happy to be friends.  I knew it wouldn’t be super easy to be friends, but I knew I would be happier and honestly, he had gotten on my nerves so much that I was at a point where I didn’t feel the same way about him.  I lost the attraction for the most part, too. Being his friend worked for me. A few months after I told him I was done, he tried holding my hand when we went to a movie. I looked at him like, “WTF,” and told him “Nope.”

He stuck to the friendship boundaries for the rest of the friendship, but, still occasionally veered off track by flirting inappropriately or saying how he wished he had given me a real chance. I avoided all that nonsense because to me, I had put him in the friend zone. I had had enough. He had had his chance. Laura was done. He had regrets– and me? I had none.

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3 Warning Signs That Your Guy/Gal Is Going to Hurt You 100%

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Some people should come with warning signs on them, but unfortunately, life isn’t that easy. Even if it were, people would still probably go out with “dangerous” individuals.

I’ve met a lot of people in my time and have sat back and watched a lot the last few years.  I’ve learned that while some people are really good at hiding stuff, there are a lot of warning signs that a man or woman is going to hurt you– and good– if you just pay attention and be smart. Keeping your guard up until you know someone is a smart move. It doesn’t mean you give no one a chance– but it means you give people a chance and reciprocate slowly in kind to their hopeful positive actions.

So basically, in the meantime, keep an open mind but also, open eyes as you get to know others. They may reveal themselves before they want to if you pay attention. It’ll save you time so you don’t waste yours. Your time is precious!

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Is Your Love a 100 or a 0? Loving Actions Add Up!

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This is a trying time for everyone, regardless of your class, ethnicity, marital status, etc.

So, under these trying times, is your partner or love interest taking time to be loving with positive actions? Are you taking time to be loving? Is your love interest available and considerate of your feelings?

Here are a few things that add up in a positive way. If your partner or love interest isn’t doing these things, he or she isn’t “adding” up to much.

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How to Be in The Moment Romantically & Sexually

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Overthinking and pushing can take you out of the moment when you’re with your partner, whether it’s a sexual or romantic moment.

Looking too hard into the future or overanalyzing things can take away from the pure joy and fun that romance and sex brings.

Here are 3 ways to avoid overthinking and help yourself stay in the moment in the bedroom or wherever you are, with your love interest:

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The Sexual & Romantic Relationship You Need During the Covid-19 Outbreak

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While some parties are sheltering in place together and others are “dating” from a social distance, there is really only one kind of relationship– romantic and sexual– that we need at this time.

Fun Exciting Intimacy & Sex

This can happen whether face to face or from a distance (albeit you’ve got to be imaginative).

This isn’t the time to be dull, distant or worse, fighting over dumb stuff.

Let the small crap slide.

If you feel stressed and less “excited” at this time, that is understandable and I’ll get into that in my next point.

But, if you are ready and willing– be creative.

Experiment. Use your time wisely because you will never have this many hours to kill to do fun sexy things together. Take advantage of this time. Seize it!

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The Most Loving Thing Someone Can Do Is Be There For You

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The single most loving thing anyone can do is be there for you.

The person doesn’t have to have answers or help. The person doesn’t have to be an expert to be there for you.

All someone has to do is show up.

All someone has to do is not be lazy, selfish or unreliable.

Simply being present for someone when he or she needs it is the best way to say ” I love you.”

No gift, no favor and no “title” or status can show love the same way being there for someone can say–  You are loved.

The person who has the time to listen.

The person who has the time to help you if you’re sick or be an advocate at the doctor for you

The person who celebrates you and comes around to cheer you on.

That person loves you without any fancy gifts, showy displays of affection or exchange of vows.

Simply being a present and active person in someone’s life is the greatest gesture of love we can all ask for.

It’s one little thing that means so much– your presence.

Lots of Love,

Laura

4 Gestures That Made For Great, Memorable Dates

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Not every date is worth talking about– but some are worth talking about and sharing for years to come– even if you’re not with the person still.
When you have a good date and then go out of your way to show someone that you are intrigued by them and want to know more, it really makes a memorable difference to that person. The little things or the big things we do can go such a long way.

If you had a great time with someone or think there’s a special connection, why not make some extra effort to share how excited you are about meeting this person and developing the relationship potentially further? At the very least by doing so, you’ll get an idea of how this person feels about getting to know you further as well!

Here are some of the most special small gestures I’ve received on dates or after dates, through the years, that really touched me and made me smile.

A Thoughtful Note

When someone expresses what a great time he or she had in words the day after a date– it goes a long way.

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Someone Who Really Loves You Will Never Let Go of You

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Someone who truly cherishes and desires you will never let go of you. He or she will never choose the other “green grass.” That person will never try to forcibly change you or dodge/avoid committing to you.

That person will want you as you are, and want to give him or herself to you completely.

This doesn’t mean this person will be perfect or constantly the epitome of a “perfect partner.”

What it means is this person will be imperfect, but true to you. This person will be flawed, but always, trying to have you near him or her. This person will work hard to be a better person because you inspire him or her to be better!

This person will inspire you to be better!

This person will not dilly-dally or risk losing you.

This person will come forth with all the good intentions you can imagine, trying to get a chance to be loved and known by you.

Not because the person is a crazy stalker– but because the person truly sees all you have to offer and wants so much to have you be a part of his or her life and story.

That person wants you to join him or her in this crazy dance called life. For the slow parts– the quick parts. The interlude. For every movement and tempo and every type of song, this person knows you are the music to which his or her heart beats and goes.

Without you, life is not the same.

You will meet someone who will want so much to dance next to you and be with you in this life.

Do not doubt it.

It’s a promise. Not an “If” but a “when.”

Dance On,

Laura

5 Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Special After You’ve Been Unavailable or Distracted

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We all want to feel important and cherished, whether we are an introvert, extrovert or something in-between. We all seek that attention and care from someone special, although the ways we may want that attention can vary. None of us want to be intimate with someone and then tossed aside. Unless of course, it was a one-night stand– but that’s for another blog. None of us want to feel ignored or not valued. We all want to feel special.

That being said, how good have you really been at showing the person you care about that he/she matters? Have you been sort of busy and unable to touch base? Have you been slacking or selfish or just not 100% there when with your partner? Have you had too much on your mind and been too distracted?

If you love someone and feel like maybe you need to give your special person some extra TLC for whatever reason, try these easy ideas to brighten their day.

Remember that every relationship  and marriage is truly a garden: it must be tended to, lest it grows weeds or dies.

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9 Gifts to Buy Your New Love Interest This Valentine’s Day

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You two just met or are recently dating, and so you’re wondering how to crush this Valentine’s Day in a special way so you stay in her good graces. Well, you do it right with a thoughtful gift– so she knows you care and aren’t some foolish guy or gal trying to play her.

Try these 9 thoughtful Valentine’s Day gifts that she really wants to hit the ball out of the park with her:

Super Delicious Desserts!

The way to your lady’s heart is through chocolate or something covered in caramel.

Make it sweet sweet! Share it with her– or, better yet, let her pick a few desserts to enjoy. Probably one of my favorite dates was when the guy allowed me to pick two desserts to try at once. YUM!

Old School Box of Chocolates

Make it quality chocolate, puhlease …

This oldie but goodie always pleases!

Spa Day … Aah …

She needs to relax. She really, really needs to!

Of course,  you’re a new guy on the scene, so don’t go crazy dropping money you can’t afford. A massage as opposed to a spa day is cool, even if it’s an at-home massage.

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