Thoughts on Holiday Romantic Highs & Lows

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The holidays are a frenzied time of highs and lows for most people. If you’re entering into the New Year still a bit dizzy over the past few weeks, you’re not alone. Depending on your own personal situation with love, perhaps the holidays were very successful and romantic, or perhaps it was not at all. It may have even been a mix of highs and lows– that is life, after all. Here are some typical holiday romantic highs and lows, and how to deal with them as you enter in the new year.

You got amazing gifts from your loved one.

Your partner or love interest spoiled you rotten. After the high and delight from such care and love, you are probably feeling really confident in your relationship. Treasure it! And also realize that some times, your partner won’t be able to be as doting.

VS.

Your love interest didn’t get you a gift

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Do You Want a Relationship Built on Sex or Intimacy?

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What does it mean to build a relationship towards intimacy versus what it means to build a relationship of sex?

It really depends on what you want. If you value the person and desire closeness, intimacy is the path you’d like to take.

If you just find the person attractive and don’t want to be close to them other than for carnal needs, sex is the path you’d like to take.

There are some easy key differences between these two paths, so let’s dive in and discuss them, as well as discuss which path is better.

While sex is intimate and part of intimacy, taking your relationship down the path of sex does not guarantee closeness. And while taking your relationship down the path of intimacy includes sex, it does includes closeness.

One path builds continuously and evolves, while the other path is limited and steady.

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15 Great Date Ideas for Love Interests, Spouses & More in 2020

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2020 just sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Well, it’s about to get more fun, frisky and fabulous with these 15 great date night ideas for all 4 seasons. (Of course, some of you don’t get the 4 seasons, but don’t let that phase you.) I can’t wait to hopefully put these different date ideas to the test– we shall see what the year brings me!– and I hope you like them as well. Some of them are as basic as can be– movie night, anyone? And some are a bit on the more creative side– anyone feel like attending a sexy masquerade? Whatever your speed, I am sure you’ll find something in here that’s right for you and the person who makes you tingle all over.

We all know there is nothing worse than a date that simply sucks, or is with a psycho. So, grab your hottest guy, gal or whatever pronoun you prefer, and test out these 15 great date night ideas in 2020!

Winter

1. Hit a Trade Show

Does your lady love motorcycles? Is he dying to test out the latest in robotics? What about erotica?

The winter is a great time for a trade show. Spend the day together geeking out over whatever it is you two love– or watch your love interest go crazy.

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Where Do You Stand With Your Man?

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Men are pretty simple I think. I don’t say that to be condescending or negative. I see the simplicity as a positive. Basically, if a man likes you, you know it. If he’s on the fence about you– you know it. If he doesn’t like you– you know it. Of course, there is always room for situational and individual differences. Some men may be shy or, unsure of how to read your signals in response to him, whether you’re a woman or another man. This may make him appear as more or less interested depending on the situation.

But as a general guide, here are some signs to notice when you’re trying to decide where you stand with a man.

1. How He Sees You & When He Sees You

If a man likes you, he makes an effort to see you despite his hectic schedule.

He also will make sure to see you to do things with you or to just hang and talk to you– not just to fool around.  Not that there is anything wrong with physical intimacy!  Intimacy is very important, but, there is a difference between physical intimacy and a hook up, so don’t count frequent texts to come over for “action” as an indicator of deep emotions.

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4 Signs Your Love Interest or Partner Is Bored, Upset or Over You

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Have you ever wondered if you’re being sensitive or that your love interest or partner may be upset with you? Or worse, over you?

We all have our moments of paranoia and insecurity, but is your partner or love interest really done with you?

There’s no real definitive way to tell without asking the person, but here are some things that your love flame, interest or partner may do if he or she is upset with you or bored and done with you.

1.  Not Ask How You Are Doing– Less Inquisitive

If your love stops asking how you are or just doesn’t seem to ask you many questions about how you’re doing, what you’re up to and where you’re going, that’s a bad sign.

However, your partner or interest may not be upset with you or over you, but perhaps your love is:

Distracted?

Stressed over other things happening?

Having a busy day at work?

Keep these things in mind! It’s not always about you.

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What Your Love Interest Wants You to “Buy” This Holiday Season

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If you just met someone, have been with them for a while or care about someone and want to show them you actually care about them beyond the surface/physical … here are things you can “get” this love interest, and none of them are gifts. Although of course if you’d like to buy this person a gift, by all means do so! I’ll have some bonus tips on picking the right gift thrown in.

First, the biggest thing you can give this person is your Time.

Time to spend together, get to know each other and appreciate each other is the biggest gift of all.

But this time has to be well-spent.

Put away your phones! No surfing the internet while with this person.

Set aside your distractions.

Even if it’s just for two hours, two hours of quality time beats an afternoon where your love interest stares at his or her phone all day.

The second biggest thing you can give this person is your Affection.

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The 4 Keys to a Great Sexual Relationship: Frequency, Type & More

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If you want a great sexual relationship with someone, you’ve got to agree on 4 different things:

  • Frequency– how often you do it
  • Type–is it kinky always, sometimes or never? is it romantic sometimes, always or never?
  • Communication– do you want to discuss and push the envelope or share feelings, or do you like to keep it basic?
  • Intensity– do you want it deep and long or short all the time?

It’s not like you need to have an academic discussion with your partner on the matter, but generally, couples who are sexually healthy and happy have similar bedroom styles in terms of type of sex, frequency, intensity and how they communicate during, before and after sex. And in many –I’d say most couples, one or both parties is willing to compromise on perhaps the frequency or type now and then. This is what makes the relationship work out well.

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9 Traits Grown Women Find Seriously Attractive in Men

Lots of guys ask questions like, “Why do girls like bad boys?”, wondering what it is women find even remotely attractive about men who end up hurting them. But if you really want to know how to get a girl to like you, the last place you should look for inspiration about what women find attractive are those rebels without a clue. And women, you should be paying no attention at all to those bad boys. They’ll only leave you high and dry, and they’re really no fun, save for – maybe – a few bedroom romps.

Honestly, if you’re over 21, you probably already know how quickly these kinds of guys lose their appeal. They’ve got a clear expiration date. They’re cute when they’re young, but as a girl matures into a woman, her patience for them disappears. And while the saying that “Good men are hard to find” may be popular for good reason, the good news is that at least they aren’t impossible to find. They do exist! And when we ladies finally figure out how to find a good man, there are so many things about that person that we love that we cannot help but overlook the small things he might do to upset us.

Truly, when you break it down, bad guys are “boys,” but good guys are “men.” Would you rather play with a boy – or run with a man? So guys, here are the dominant personality traits grown women find most attractive and utterly irresistible about a good man that make bad boys look like little babies. (After all, ladies, if you want to find a good man, you need to know what you’re looking for and why these men are so much better than that “bad boy” who’s been stringing you along.)

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Boys Drool, Men Rule,

Laura

10 Men Share How They Know Whether A Woman Is Short-Term Fun Or Worthy Of A Long-Term Relationship

Have you ever wondered what makes a guy settle down? Have you ever watched a lifelong bachelor finally decide on someone? What about your guy friends? Have you seen them swoon over one woman and act indifferent to another? Have you, as a woman, sat there before or during a date and made some sort of strategy, whether it was to hold off on kissing, sex, or avoiding or encouraging certain kinds of conversations?

I’ve spent a lot of time wondering how men categorize women they meet, strategizing and deciding how much of myself to reveal, give or offer up. After all, that’s what will make a good relationship in the long-run.

It’s always seemed straightforward: if a woman really likes a man, she should make him work for it and not give up too much. Because if a woman is too quick to hop in bed or seems to be too eager to be involved, a man puts her in that “short-term fling” category, instead of someone he’d want a long-term relationship with.

Read More: 10 Men Share How They Know Whether A Woman Is Short-Term Fun Or Worthy Of A Long-Term Relationship

Get the Scoop,

Laura

13 Signs You’ve DEFINITELY Met Your Sexual Soulmate

When you meet someone and all the stars align into one huge (or many delightful) orgasms and your skin is glowing like you’re lit up from the inside, you’ve met your sexual soulmate! You know finding good sex isn’t always easy and finding your sexual soulmate is like hitting the jackpot.

When two bodies align in one supernova fantasy, it’s pretty damn amazing. Here are 13 signs you’ve met your sexual soulmate.

1. They listen without judgment.

You know that moment when you get a sexual idea in your head but you’re afraid to bring it up in case the other person says, “No way!” and thinks you’re a total freak? Your sexual soulmate listens to your sexual ideas with an eagerness akin to a dog begging for a bone. Your sexual soulmate wants to hear what you have to say, even if, ultimately, he or she doesn’t say yes to your sexual need. This person also doesn’t judge.

2. You want sex at the same time.

Some people like it all the time. Others like it at certain times of the month. Your sexual soulmate will want sex with the same frequency as you, whether it’s only on Sundays or every damn day of the week.

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Kismet,

Laura