It’s Easy to Be Physical But Not So Easy to Love

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Anyone can have a fun physical connection with someone else. Anyone can buy a gift. Send a gift card. Anyone can have a quick cuddle fest or Netflix and “chill.”

But it’s not so easy to love. To be there for someone. To make them feel special. To really get to know them. To include the person in their daily life.

If you’re “seeing” someone and wondering where the relationship lies, just ask yourself these questions and you’ll find that it’s pretty easy to see how much you really matter to someone:

  1.  Is the person trying to get physical with you or getting physical with you, but hasn’t asked you on a date or included you in his/her hangouts with friends? If you answered yes, this person is taking the easy way out– and you don’t matter to him/her.
  2. Is the person available for you physically, but not emotionally? If this is a yes, this person isn’t invested in you beyond casual interactions.

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Someone Who Values You Vs. Someone Who Can’t Take You Out to Dinner

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One of the most important life lessons is to know how valuable you are. Because if you know you are valuable, you will never settle for anyone that makes you feel less then.
It’s taken me a lot longer than most people to realize I am a valuable and worthy person. I’m going to admit right off the bat that it’s very difficult for me sometimes to have any confidence and faith that I am really and truly deserving.

Because I have struggled, I have also learned the difference between somebody who values me and someone who doesn’t. So I’m hoping that sharing this will help others to not make the same mistakes I did. And if you have settled in the past or accepted  less than what you’re worth, don’t feel bad. You’re not alone and just know that every day is a new opportunity to try again and ask more of others and not settle.

 

Can’t Wait to See You Vs. Can’t Take You to Dinner

Oh yes. I’ve been there when the guy can’t even make an effort to take you out. When they have every excuse in the book. That’s not someone who values you. Someone who really values you can’t wait to see you. They’re  so excited and they look forward to getting to know you better.

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Someone Who Really Cares Wants The Commitment & Wants You

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If there’s anything I’ve learned in my life it’s that people who care about you want you and want the commitment. They want the time with you. They want to work to make the relationship happen. They want you and will do their best to make you happy. They want the relationship to succeed and that means, making sacrifices and working to be the best individual and partner they can be.

Someone who doesn’t commit, doesn’t care.
Someone who is selfish or distant, doesn’t care.
Someone who isn’t consistent and isn’t available, doesn’t care.
He or she may like you as a friend. He or she may like you for just sex. He or she may think you’re a good person.
BUT— if he or she doesn’t commit, that person doesn’t want you and doesn’t care.

Commitment shows someone values you. Make no mistake about it.

Tale As Old As Time,

Laura

How to Be in The Moment Romantically & Sexually

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Overthinking and pushing can take you out of the moment when you’re with your partner, whether it’s a sexual or romantic moment.

Looking too hard into the future or overanalyzing things can take away from the pure joy and fun that romance and sex brings.

Here are 3 ways to avoid overthinking and help yourself stay in the moment in the bedroom or wherever you are, with your love interest:

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4 Reasons New Relationships Are So Much Fun in the Winter

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The winter may be a most frigid and desolate time, but it’s also a great excuse to cuddle up and start cuffing with someone sexy, fun and new!

The other bonus point is: less bugs. To me, this is always a selling point!

And while winter doesn’t have the warm sultry allure of a rainy summer night or thunderstorm, the chill has its own appeal, especially for new loves!

Staying Inside Means More Face Time (In Real Life)

Instead of mixing and mingling, the cold chill keeps the two of you new love interests inside, face-to face … for serious personal time! The noise and fun of summer is great– and the interactive fall with its mild temperatures are too, but winter gets the two of you to hibernate. And what better way to get to know a new lover and partner?

That Frigid Wind Causes You Both to Be Creative

Eager for action but not going to bother heading outside into the arctic air?

Those cold temps invite the two of you to be creative with each other, which can make for incredible sexy fun!

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Speaks Your Love Language

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Everyone “speaks” love in a different way. For me, when a man is super intelligent, witty and able to verbally charm and compliment me– I melt. I especially am happy if he is handy and also, willing to slow dance or try salsa-merengue!

When you meet someone who does or who just “might” speak your love language, it literally feels like your soul has awoken. Especially when you are a lady like myself who is divorced and ready for fun!

Maybe you want a woman who feeds you the best meals and says I Love You with a steak.

Maybe you need a guy who does nothing extra special, but showers you with gifts.

When someone walks in the room and speaks that undercurrent love language, it is like the floors drop underneath you and a little hope lights up in your heart in the darkest of times. It makes the day (and night) more meaningful.

Stay Bright,

Laura

 

That Exciting Feeling When You & A New Love Interest Have Chemistry

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Chemistry: it sort of feels like your body is on fire … in a really good way!

Maybe it was a great phone conversation. Maybe it was a quick, but really full of potential– coffee date. Maybe it’s just the heat you’re feeling with someone. Whatever the case, that first sign of spark can really rev up your engine emotionally, and physically!

When these signs of life show, it’s hard to not get too excited and start imagining the two of you on a very secluded beach drinking frozen cocktails and slipping off for a skinny dip– but keep your head level!

  • This might turn into something amazing … or, it may fizzle out. Either way, at least you’re having fun, right?
  • It feels great– so stay positive and hope for the best, but don’t let your imagination get away with you.
  • Focus on the fun– it’s refreshing to have a good time and feel connected to someone, so stay as present in the moment as you can.

May this spark keep you dancing until the late hours,

Laura

 

Thoughts on Holiday Romantic Highs & Lows

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The holidays are a frenzied time of highs and lows for most people. If you’re entering into the New Year still a bit dizzy over the past few weeks, you’re not alone. Depending on your own personal situation with love, perhaps the holidays were very successful and romantic, or perhaps it was not at all. It may have even been a mix of highs and lows– that is life, after all. Here are some typical holiday romantic highs and lows, and how to deal with them as you enter in the new year.

You got amazing gifts from your loved one.

Your partner or love interest spoiled you rotten. After the high and delight from such care and love, you are probably feeling really confident in your relationship. Treasure it! And also realize that some times, your partner won’t be able to be as doting.

VS.

Your love interest didn’t get you a gift

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Do You Want a Relationship Built on Sex or Intimacy?

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What does it mean to build a relationship towards intimacy versus what it means to build a relationship of sex?

It really depends on what you want. If you value the person and desire closeness, intimacy is the path you’d like to take.

If you just find the person attractive and don’t want to be close to them other than for carnal needs, sex is the path you’d like to take.

There are some easy key differences between these two paths, so let’s dive in and discuss them, as well as discuss which path is better.

While sex is intimate and part of intimacy, taking your relationship down the path of sex does not guarantee closeness. And while taking your relationship down the path of intimacy includes sex, it does includes closeness.

One path builds continuously and evolves, while the other path is limited and steady.

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15 Great Date Ideas for Love Interests, Spouses & More in 2020

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2020 just sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Well, it’s about to get more fun, frisky and fabulous with these 15 great date night ideas for all 4 seasons. (Of course, some of you don’t get the 4 seasons, but don’t let that phase you.) I can’t wait to hopefully put these different date ideas to the test– we shall see what the year brings me!– and I hope you like them as well. Some of them are as basic as can be– movie night, anyone? And some are a bit on the more creative side– anyone feel like attending a sexy masquerade? Whatever your speed, I am sure you’ll find something in here that’s right for you and the person who makes you tingle all over.

We all know there is nothing worse than a date that simply sucks, or is with a psycho. So, grab your hottest guy, gal or whatever pronoun you prefer, and test out these 15 great date night ideas in 2020!

Winter

1. Hit a Trade Show

Does your lady love motorcycles? Is he dying to test out the latest in robotics? What about erotica?

The winter is a great time for a trade show. Spend the day together geeking out over whatever it is you two love– or watch your love interest go crazy.

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