Forgiving Yourself Is As Important As Forgiving Others

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Growing up with parents coming from two different religious backgrounds has so many pluses. One is it has made me more open to others’ viewpoints. At the same time, I don’t feel aligned with any religion really. I do find both Jewish and Christian traditions interesting and meaningful. So, I am spiritual but I’m not religious.

But for the first year ever, I thought about what Yom Kippur really means. Asking for forgiveness for sins and forgiveness of others. Supposedly, it’s the time of year where G-d decides your fate and therefore, you’ve got to make amends, and fast.

I thought about who I would apologize to, however anyone I may have wronged I’ve certainly apologized to. And if there’s anyone out there I offended, well, I am truly sorry!

But I think the person I am most sorry to is myself. For being so hard on myself.
The way I’ve talked to myself and about myself.
The way I’ve judged myself and compared myself.
The way I’ve doubted myself and criticized myself.
The way I talk to myself is most often, much harder than how I’ve talked to anyone else!
It is like I’m in some competition where the goals to be fabulous are so high and not obtainable that I beat myself to death for not being enough.
But if there is one thing I am, it is tenacious and persistent. I try so hard to be my best self. To be better. To do better. Be a better mom. Person. Partner. Friend. Worker. Etc.

Here is what I don’t do: give myself a break. Be kind to myself. Compliment myself. Believe in myself.

So here is a huge apology to myself for being so bad to myself at times.

Lovingly,

Laura

5 Reasons I Love Being a Single Parent

Being a single parent isn’t easy, but neither is rocket science, finding a guy who knows the difference between “your” and “you’re,” or surviving an episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhousewithout wanting to strangle yourself to death. But even though single motherhood may have its cons and downfalls, there are so many wonderful things to embrace about being a single mom.

More of the Love

No kidding! Even though my child’s father is an active parent, when my daughter is with me, I get every inch of that love! Our bond is so very tight, and we have gotten the chance to develop a close relationship, because when it’s “Mommy time,” it’s “Mommy time,” and that means all of the kisses and hugs, too. How can anyone not cherish that?

Read More: 5 Reasons I Love Being a Single Parent

Love the Life You’re In,

Laura

How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

It came as no surprise to me when the Centers For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently revealed a study showing that 44 percent of single moms with kids under 18 at home do not get the recommended minimum seven hours of slumber per night. Headlines blared about our lack of sleep: Single Moms Are Tired! And truly, this was no news to those of us pulling the single mom shift either because of divorce or because dad decided to be a “no-show” parent. But what news articles and websites didn’t tell us single mommies was how to get more sleep! We know we’re sleep deprived but could you tell us how we could get more shut-eye? Somehow? Here are my suggestions:

Leave the Country or Use a Sleep Schedule

Leave the country and run away. That way, you will be alone and able to catch up on hours of much needed rest. Of course, that would also mean not being a mom anymore. So unless you’re ready to jump ship, instead of packing your bags and moving to Guatemala, try setting a sleep schedule for yourself.

Read More: How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

I’m Tired,

Laura